Q&A: BDSM, Psychoanalysis, and Immigration

Some good questions have accumulated, and I’m posting the answers here.

I don’t. And you shouldn’t. Because they aren’t asking for advice. If anybody brings such a situation to you, it’s not because they seek guidance. The only thing they want is to triangulate you into their sexual fetish. I very strongly recommend leaving any such discussion unless you are crystal clear that you want to participate in the game of a psychosexual threesome where your role is that of a voyeur.

We have the St Louis Institute of Psychoanalysis nearby. I’m sure there’s something like this in your town. Go to the website and choose whomever has the face you believe you could trust.

For most people, the best life is in the place where they were born, surrounded by the people and things they’ve always known. While there’s always going to be a minority for whom this is not as necessary or maybe even unadvisable, we should try to organize our shared life in a way that makes this scenario possible for the majority. The nation-state level is not enough. We need to preserve small communities, townships, villages. All with their own flavor, their own local jokes, celebrations, landmarks, and history.