In many traditional cultures it is taught that a new mother should never be left alone with her babies. She needs the co-regulation of wise women/people. She needs grounded humans who feed her, make sure she is hydrated, clean her sink, brew her tea, ladle her soup, and play with her other children. Someone to sit with her, share stories, and make her laugh. Help her remember she is human.
What a moronic expression “traditional cultures” is. A primitive or a pre-industrial society is not any more traditional than ours.
In any case, when I read this description of “grounded humans” hovering around incessantly and pouring soup into my mouth, I start having a panic attack. I’ll be tortured in hell by “wise women co-regulating” me.
The description above is a recipe for driving somebody like me into postpartum psychosis. In the precious moments when the baby is asleep and I can finally have some peace, I have to listen to these women’s utterly inane stories. I know I have sinned, but surely not that badly.
I’m not criticizing people who want this kind of thing. I’m only saying that we’re all very, very different.
“What can I do to help you with the baby?”
“Go away.”
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