
A great question, thank you.
“The body is not a thing, it is a situation… it is the instrument of our grasp upon the world, a limiting factor for our projects,” said Simone de Beauvoir. That is, and always was, the essence of my feminism. Women are not men. We should not try to be “like men.” We shouldn’t try to prove we “can do everything that men do.” Because we can’t. And men can’t do everything that women do. And it’s fine. We should strive for such a way of coexistence in society that makes life comfortable for both these different biological realities.
Alongside this original feminism that I espouse, another form arose. It postulates that men and women are not biological but aspirational categories. This brand of feminism does not accept that women have a different sexuality and a different reproductive schedule than men. It doesn’t accept that women are physically weaker than men. It doesn’t believe in biological sex but in gender, which is a set of traits that you can adopt volitionally. In this brand of feminism, a woman is not a person with a uterus but a person in a skirt and makeup. I have never supported this form of feminism because, in my opinion, it achieves the exact opposite of what the original feminism sets out to do. It makes the lives of women markedly worse by denying the importance of what actually makes us women. If we accept an unsexed body as the norm, women always lose. Our physicality and our reproductive system make us need civilization, society, family, and capitalism much more than men need them.
Gender feminism is anti-woman because it sees men as the norm to which women must aspire. Take the hookup culture. It’s a maximum expression of uncivilized, untamed male sexuality. Gender feminism sold it as an aspirational ideal to several generations of women. It’s gotten so that expressing the #1 female aspiration to have a husband and children has become an eccentric, downgraded pursuit. Women are supposed to want to spend two decades of their lives in a succession of hookups before they are ready to settle down. That this is utterly impossible given female physiology is not even discussed. Is it so surprising, then, that so many girls all of a sudden want to chop off their breasts and pose as men? Not even the most repressive patriarchal society has been as inhospitable to womanhood as gender feminism.
This form of feminism currently reigns supreme but it’s a fad that I hope will fade away. Then we can go back to figuring out how to make child-bearing, family, work, and life in general comfortable to men and women together. But for that to happen, we have to defeat our inner neoliberal who bristles at Simone de Beauvoir’s words about the limiting factors for our projects. We have to accept that our physical reality is absolutely a boundary for our wants and whims. We have to understand that this is a good thing and that it’s stupid to fight against it. When we re-learn to react with immediate, unpracticed positivity to the words “a limiting factor to our projects”, gender feminism will die. It is up to us whether we are ready finally to throw this perversion onto the trash heap of history.


