Reader Bola asks, “What do you think about polyamory?”

I’m probably the most monogamous person anybody has ever met. I have had a very intense personal life but I always had a single partner at any given time (or no partner at all.) For me, being in a relationship is a concession I make. I’m a person who is very happy being single. I practice singlehood like a form of art. So for me to agree to be in a relationship, I have to experience such a profound passion for a person (which might last 2 hours or 20 years) that nobody else exists in the world. When I’m in love, I literally don’t see a huge group of naked, athletic men running around me.

But other people are just that, other people. They have other needs and other ways of achieving personal happiness. I could never be in a polyamorous relationship, just like I could never be in a lesbian relationship. I do, however, firmly believe in everybody’s right to find sexual happiness and fulfillment the way they want. For me, polyamory is neither better nor worse than monogamy. It’s a way of being that other people prefer and that makes them happy. And I celebrate that.

P.S. This was the easiest one, so I answered it first. 🙂 Thank you, Bola, for making my live easier. 🙂