Clarissa: “So if a person maybe possibly decides to attempt to maybe sometime this year to make a decision to possibly start trying to get pregnant, how soon before – if one maybe possibly decides – should one stop taking the contraceptive pills?”
OB-GYN: So is your husband ready?
The words “at least” are floating in the air.
I’m not quite sure or even a little bit certain about who such a person might be, but I got pg within 4 months of going off the pill! The freakin’ media about women who can’t get pg makes one feel that in their 30s it will take forever, but not so for me
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I had a friend who was 39 and on the pill for 20 years. She went off it and got pregnant that month.
You just never know. 🙂
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That’s what happened to me the first time…the second time took more than a year.
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I’m religious, so I’ll just let God sort it out and make it happen or not. 🙂
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Women who are in their thirties have a much higher chance of twins (100% higher ) as well as those who get pregnant right after getting off of birth control pills. I knows since my Ex was in both those categories and my first two kids were twins. They used to alternate waking up at night and demanding to be fed!
http://yourlife.usatoday.com/parenting-family/pregnancy/story/2012-01-04/Twin-births-rising-especially-for-older-women-CDC-says/52376468/1
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My aunts are twins, too, so the risk is greater.
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“My aunts are twins, too, so the risk is greater.”
Risk? It’s babies, not some horrible medical condition! “Chance” is so much better.
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Yes, I misspoke completely. Brrrr. I meant the possibility of twins.
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“They used to alternate waking up at night and demanding to be fed!”
That sounds like my cats. We’re not looking to have kids till our thirties so it’s good training I guess.
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My anecdotal experience supports the “pregnant instantly” theory. If you want some lead time, you’ll need condoms.
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I just realized this may not be a biology question. Would you change your name?
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Change my name to what?? And how is it connected to the subject?
I have hard time waking up in the morning.
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I’m concluding that the doctor suggested marriage should precede pregnancy, and asking if you’re taking his suggestions seriously, and assuming that you’re blogging about yourself.
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“I’m concluding that the doctor suggested marriage should precede pregnancy, and asking if you’re taking his suggestions seriously, and assuming that you’re blogging about yourself.”
– Oh, now I get it. 🙂 The story is about me, of course. They all are because I have no imagination.
I’m married already. When I came to this OB-GYN for the first time, she asked, “Have you been married for a long time?”
“No,” I said, “I’m a newlywed.”
“That’s strange,” she said. “You look like you’ve been married a long time.”
I still have absolutely no idea what that was supposed to mean. Like I’d let myself go, or something? Or, to the contrary, looked happy and placid?
Does anybody have an explanation?
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Oh, and I guess the doctor was trying to ask if the husband is at least more ready than I am. 🙂
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i understand better now.
I implied no comment about your imagination or about the context of your anecdote. Information was missing, so I just filled in the gaps with assumptions pending further explanation. I, myself have little to no imagination, so I try not to say anything negative about another person’s creativity or lack thereof.
I worry that the comment from an Ob-Gyn about how long you’d been married may be less about your superficial public appearance and more about an intimate condition than you’d like to contemplate. My advice is to file this under “people say stupid things” like when one asks a woman how long until the baby is due only to later discover said woman is not pregnant,
i think you ought to be sure your husband is ready for babies. I suspect you are sure, else you wouldn’t be even thinking about it yourself. You don’t seem to be the “breeder” type to me. Having kids seems to be an important decision for you, and I suspect you’ll take every step of the process pretty seriously.
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“I worry that the comment from an Ob-Gyn about how long you’d been married may be less about your superficial public appearance and more about an intimate condition than you’d like to contemplate. ”
– You’d think that, right? But this comment was made before the exam. All she had seen of me at that time was my . . . erm. . . outward appearance. 🙂 🙂
“Having kids seems to be an important decision for you, and I suspect you’ll take every step of the process pretty seriously.”
– Too seriously. I’m as solemn as a church choir.
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If you want to see someone who REALLY looks like she has been married a long time, you should see me! You are funny.
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“You are funny.”
– I am but this wasn’t me, in this particular instance. It was the OB/GYN. 🙂
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