I just found a classic example of projection. The author of the article passionately despises single mothers and low-income families and projects this contempt onto “our society.” Of course, it’s easier to blame some imaginary “society” than to accept that she is a hopeless self-hating hypocrite who sees herself as worthless unless a man has validated her existence with “a piece of paper.”
Whenever I see anybody write, “our society tells us that. . .” or “we are conditioned to. . .” I immediately know that what I’m seeing is a projection. The beliefs the author assigns to “society” or conceals behind the use of the passive voice are his or her own.
By the way, when I had my card rejected at a dollar store, of all places, all I saw in the faces of people around me was compassion and a desire to help me avoid feeling any discomfort over it. Maybe that’s because my philosophy is “Shit happens” and I see nothing at all shameful in having financial problems. Or being a single parent, for that matter.
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The author comes across as really paranoid. My credit card frequently gets rejected at all kinds of stores; I have never noticed anyone giving me the so-called “looks”. I’d be surprised if anyone at the store at all noticed that her card got rejected and she was not wearing a ring.
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I know! People are normally too concentrated on their own lives to notice if some stranger has a wedding ring. I can’t remember ever noticing anybody’s wedding ring unless they asked me to look at it.
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Good lord. This woman is so envious of people who have more stuff than she has that she’s radioactive.
And she probably imagined all those “dirty looks” and “pitying sighs.” I live in the redneckiest part of Redneckistan, USA, and this place is full of unwed mothers and crapmobiles and no one has any money for a “cubic zirconium” ring from Walmart much less a fancy diamond ring. But in any case, I grew up in Miami, which is full of the richiest rich people who ever riched, and I never had any money and sometimes I had even less than no money and my cards were always getting rejected and except for occasionally feeling embarrassed (because I knew full well that I’d been careless with my paycheck that week) I never went into the convulsions of concern that this woman did over what she thought everyone was thinking about her. In a Target of all places.
Also $400 for some kid’s party? You buy a cake, some ice cream, some paper plates and plastic spoons, you shouldn’t have spent more than $30.00 max. I’ve shopped at Target, no way would party stuff have cost her the whole $400.
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Exactly. She just revealed how she looked down on single mothers, that’s all.
What’s funny is that the whole post masks as some kind of political activism where the entire world is being accused of not being progressive enough.
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