Irreflexive sexists are the worst. It’s not like they actually set out to harm or undermine their female colleagues and employees. No, they like women and really want them to succeed. It just so happens that Helen and Keisha are always asked to clean up after a departmental party while Josh and Peter always end up managing new and exciting projects. This isn’t in the least because of their gender. It’s just that “the girls” are so careful and meticulous. It’s a valuable skill that they should be proud of. And “the boys” are simply better at leading people and taking risks. Not all girls and boys, mind you, because that would be sexist. Just these specific ones. An irreflexive sexist is always more than willing to accept feminist ideas just as long as they are put in practice somewhere else.
An irreflexive sexist gets incensed when anybody suggests that there seems to be a disturbing pattern in how people are treated in the office on the basis of their gender. Sexists of this type often see themselves as open-minded and progressive. Many even claim to be feminists. They don’t accept even the slightest possibility that there is anything but pure chance behind their denial of promotion to their female employees.
Paradoxically, it is much easier to deal with a sexist who is conscious of being one. You can at least try to enter into a dialogue and offer counterarguments. An irreflexive sexist, however, spouts all the right verbiage about women’s rights and gender discrimination, so there is nothing to argue about.
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So true.
There is also nothing sexist about the guys not inviting the women along for lunch or for beer, or for giving talks at their conferences, or for a collaboration, and not listening to what the female expert hast to say. They just happen to get along better with the guys, and somehow the female expert’s opinion sounds a little off, although it is hard to say why. That is not sexist, that is just a gut feeling, which everyone is entitled to have.
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Or not teaching literature written by women, exactly.
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But that whole attitude of the goo’ ol’ boyz is akin to admitting you are happy to stick with culture as the means to define everything. You don’t care to use the intellect very much. That’s how I read it.
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Guys are lazy, and they like to have fun. Just don’t pick up after them. And have fun yourself, with or without them.
You know when men really like to talk to women? It’s when they have problems. I have had three different men bending my ear about their sorrows, just in the past week. Otherwise they would rather be hoisting a few with the boys.
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I heard “men and women are already 100% equal, no need for feminism” and any inequality is because of personal choices, common sense and other issues. “It’s a question of religion, not of women rights.”
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sexism brings with it its own punishments — lots of blind spots. I wouldn’t want to be a person going through life with so many of those.
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When I was in high school, I refused to learn how to touch-type, fearing that any admission of accurate speedy typing skill would doom me to secretary this, secretary that.
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What a terribly limited lens to view life through.
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