OK, so remember our struggle for power discussion? Want to know how the situation developed and who was right? See for yourselves:
Apropos of my coming visit, he remarked on our “dating or whatever you call it” before continuing with possible activities while I’m there. A bit later, he told me how much he enjoyed my company; he was happy when we were together. He followed that with a comment about how our interactions often made him think of his ex, when we were in a certain place or talking about a certain subject. Then he referenced how our relationship was “temporary,” although he didn’t have a specific timeline.
I’m never mistaken about these things. The guy won an early advantage and is now pressing it home at every opportunity. He’s the one deciding whether the relationship is temporary and is skillfully keeping his adversary on her toes by having her guess when he will choose to terminate it.
People, remember, whatever you do, don’t become the person who guesses, wonders, frets and tries to figure out what the other person is assuming, implying, wanting or planning. Figure out what you want and make it known. Calmly communicate your wishes in very clear terms.
And for Pete’s sake, do not allow a casual date who won’t even allow you to call him or her a date unload the drama of children, exes, divorces, and psychological issues on you.
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