I should stop reading the review section of the NYTimes because it’s populated by crowds of whiny, dumb people I do everything to avoid in RL. Here is one more example:
I am an opinionated woman so I am often accused of being angry. This accusation is made. . .
I’m also an opinionated woman. I’m also as angry as the day is long. It would have never occurred to me to see the beautiful, healthy, productive quality of knowing how to externalize anger as “an accusation.”
People should try to analyze their own speech patterns and they will discover how much of what they see as universal or externally generated has an internal locus of control. All of this disapproval, judgment, accusations, criticisms that people believe otehrs direct at them comes solely from inside of their own selves. Everybody else is too busy accusing, judging and criticizing themselves that they have zero time to notice you even exist.
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Oh, I don’t think so. Many people aren’t self-critical at all, they’re self-righteous. They say things like “Because you speak out for justice, you must be a very angry person; you should look at what the internal sources of this anger are rather than protest [the budget cuts, for instance]”
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Maybe I should start giving classes on how to avoid anybody ever saying “you should” to one. 🙂
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Someone should also do a book on the fear of anger in US society. Lust, gluttony and avarice are fine but ire is a most deadly sin.
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(I just said should)
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I’m sure there are a lot of books analyzing the performative nature of anger expressions in the US. Just like people perform lust, avarice, gluttony, sadness, and other emotions.
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