I’ve saddled my second favorite topic after the nation-state and now I can’t stop.
Imagine a diabetic who says, “I’m such an idiot. Once again, I wasted a ton of time yesterday, tracking my blood sugars, controlling my diet and injecting insulin instead of working on this important project I have at work.” What would you tell him? “No, you ‘wasted all this time in order to be able to keep living and working, you silly goose.”
It’s exactly the same for people who blame themselves for “wasting” 5 hours on browsing Facebook or binge-watching Netflix or whatever instead of working or being productive. Like that imaginary diabetic, they fail to realize that this “useless” activity is their insulin. They do it not instead of but in order to keep living and working.
And if you are the kind of person who’d never blame a diabetic for being a diabetic, then you’ve got to ask yourself why you are so much more forgiving of physiological burdens than of psychological ones. (And if you are the kind of person who’d blame a diabetic, then you shouldn’t be on this blog because you are kind of dumb).
The only way of getting rid of a compensatory mechanism begins with embracing it and feeling thankful to it. Even if it’s something clearly harmful like alcohol or even an opiate addiction. I know somebody who kicked a heroin addiction, and that was his first step. I also know somebody who successfully treated dozens of heroin addicts, and he confirms that this is the unavoidable first step.
Once you embrace your compensatory mechanisms, you’ll be able to get enough energy from them to move to the next step.