Klara and I were building a tower with stacking cups. She took one of the cups and pretended to drink out of it saying, “I drinking coffee, Mommy.”
I took the cup and tried to put it on the tower but she took it away from me and said very seriously, “I pouring out coffee, Mommy.” She pretended to pour out the imaginary coffee and gave the cup back for me to keep building.
Today in beginner Spanish, a student was leaving the classroom and I made a joke. And she laughed and also made a joke. And we laughed together. Once you laugh in a language, that’s it, learning is inevitable. It feels very good to help this happen.
I finally read the article that started the age difference discussion and oh, lordy. The author is dumber than a sack of hair. I’d love to be able to blame it on her age but I fear there’s no hope of one’s brain growing when there isn’t one to begin with.
Mike is talking about relationships with significant age differences.
Here is what I think. The idea that a relationship is exploitative or somehow impacts agency because of an age difference is ridiculous and I don’t want to waste any time discussing it.
But a problem that actually exists is the following. Say, people meet and fall in love when one of them is 20 and another is 35. It’s all good for the moment. But in the next 10 years, the person who is 20 is going to grow a lot. And the one who is 35 is not. Yes, you can still grow at 35 or 45, blah blah. But it doesn’t happen nearly at the pace or with the intensity of what a 20-year-old experiences.
So if the goal of such couples is just to have sex and have fun, it’s going to work out fine. Probably deathly boring for the guy if he’s the one who’s 35 in the relationship (unless he’s insecure or inexperienced). But it’s not a big deal. If the woman is the one who’s 35, they will at least have the same degree of. . . erm, eagerness.
But if they start something serious, then the change of the dynamic from one between a wide-eyed silly little innocent and an experienced, knowing adult to one between two adults is going to be very harsh. The younger one will either self-infantilize or rebel.
Again, I’m talking about significant age differences only. And the difference needs to grow as the people become older. So when a 30-year-old meets a 40-year-old, that’s not a difference worth discussing because they are both adults and have stopped massively growing.
Whoever said you can’t teach beginner Spanish 100% in Spanish is wrong. Of course, half of the students drop out and go to the sections where little Spanish is spoken. But those who stay do amazing.