People perceive any criticism of their life choices as extremely threatening.
Gosh, forget that. They perceive any pause in the constant praise of their life choices as deadly.
“Me, me, me! What about me? I made a different choice and you forgot to mention that it’s a great one. MEEEEEEEEE!”
I have made a lot of choices in life. Some of them very bizarre. I’m fine with them. I have accepted that I have done what I have done because that’s what I needed to do at that time. For example, I don’t feel personally alluded to or criticized when people say (very correctly, by the way) that it’s suboptimal to try to give birth at the age of 40. People should be able to make that very reasonable and uncontroversial statement without having the pander to outliers like me who decided to do things differently at a terrible personal cost.
It’s much easier to find a way to be at peace with your own decisions, unconventional as they might be, than spend your life feeling constantly wounded by others not reassuring you that these choices are fine.
It’s up to you to make your choices fine in your own eyes, is what I’m saying. As to whether they are fine in somebody else’s eyes, if you are past the age of 20, that should not even remotely matter to you.
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I became pregnant with twins (naturally) when I was past my 40th birthday. Already had two grown daughters and many were telling me how dangerous it is to give birth at my age. Everything was perfect, very healthy large twins. They are almost middle-aged now, one is an orthopaedic surgeon and the other a professor of mathematics at a French University. The only nay-sayer I still bear a grudge towards was an obgyn (male) who said early on that I should consider having a selective abortion to give the other twin a better chance. The one to go would have been the University professor.
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