The disciplinarian society is dead. Nobody cares what you do and how you live. People are trying to convince themselves that this is not the case. They keep repeating “society tells us to” even though society has gone away. They do it because they intuit that the end of the disciplinarian society is a disaster for most.
There are people, a minority, who don’t need an externally imposed structure because they created an internal one. They moved the disciplinarian inside. They live within a severe moral code that is internally sustained. They have their schedules, routines, and a rigid carcass of self-imposed limitations.
Most, however, are incapable of placing the raging desires that are the lot of every human into a cage and policing it daily. Without external sources of discipline, they get addicted to screens, become decision-averse, and perceive any limitation on satisfying each passing whim as crushing. They look unwell, both physically and psychically. The name of their illness is freedom with which they only know how to harm themselves.
Schooling hasn’t caught up with these changes and is still preparing people for a disciplinarian society that is no longer there.
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If my 20ish relatives are anything to go by, current schooling models are worse than that: they actively teach kids to *resist* anything that looks disciplinarian.
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That’s even worse. The goal should be to teach self-discipline. Whether we like it or not, we are entering a societal model where you either place severe limits on your whims, or you’ll give in to them and self-destruct.
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They are already self-destructing
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“They are already self-destructing”
Which, sadly, is the entire point. The scam economy in full predatory form: prevent most people from being able to acquire assets and do everything possible to strip the assets from those who still manage to.
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It makes me want to cry. We’re genY and we are in the weird borderland, have religion, grew up in stable two parent homes, able to handle the basic work, pay bills, get married, raise kids thing… but getting squeezed like olives in a press. We have each other, and we have a church community.
The younger set… the adults are not making it. They aren’t getting married, they are barely working, they are getting eaten alive by both legal and illegal drugs. Not even trying to get them to be productive normal adults anymore: mostly running damage control trying to keep the girls from becoming homeless drug whores, and the boys from basement-dwelling, pot-mediated internet wanking. We’re failing.
Clarissa recommended a book a while ago about a woman working as a high-rent hooker, living the fluid neoliberal dream, trying to hitch up with a rich dude as a longterm gig. I couldn’t get past the first few chapters because I am losing a younger relative to a devastatingly similar thing. Disfigured her face with plastic surgery. Last we heard from her she was on another continent, on someone else’s dime, wouldn’t talk about it. That was months ago and we have no idea if she’s even still alive, or who to contact, to find out.
Outlook for the current infant set is unspeakable. The ones who haven’t had kids: we’re relieved. It’s definitely not the worst that can happen. The kids who did happen: are not being raised by their parents. The lucky ones are being raised by grandparents or sole-custody bio-dads, and the rest by mom and mom’s current squeeze. Only a handful of them, thank God, but 100% of them are some flavor of brain damaged from various combinations of maternal substance abuse and parental negligence. Drugs are bad parents.
Watching my family line die out is hella depressing. Trying to do better with our kids, but not optimistic about the world they’ll inherit.
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I’m totally with you. I’m confident that we will collectively step away from this model eventually. It’s a bad model. It’s anti-life and anti-everything good. But before that happens on a society-wide level, we’ll have to hold on tight individually.
Whatever it is, whatever helps to hold it together, we’ll have to do it. People are self-destructing, and it’s a tragedy.
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I’m not at all sure there will be any stepping away.
Reckon it’ll just be brutal Darwinian selection: in fifty years, the only survivors will be those who resisted the zeitgeist.
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The apartheid government were big believers in the disciplinarian society. Their Calvinist belief in rigid social order worked well enough with the Dickensian mining economy they inherited from the British. The problems with this economic model started with increased mechanization in the ’70s.
This was a major problem the anti-apartheid movement faced when their Communist belief in worker exploitation ran into the problem that the mines would prefer to have far fewer workers.
https://www.lrb.co.uk/the-paper/v30/n22/r.w.-johnson/end-of-the-road
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