She wasted an entire decade of her most fertile years on him, too. If they don’t have kids, and she’s saying that out loud, 80% chance she’s thinking about dumping him and trying for someone who wants a family. It happens around that age.
“80% chance she’s thinking about dumping him and trying for someone who wants a family”
Definitely, and I’d say at least 60% she’s already got someone else in her sights and is trying to get him to break up with her (because…. some people are like that maneuvering the other into making the break leaves them with fewer guilty feelings). It might not even be a conscious strategy on her part, sometimes people do things that they don’t understand but which others do.
Well, that is a definite red flag and he had better immediately seek legal advice to determine his legal obligations in their jurisdiction – do not use a local legal office. If there are no children and his expected support and property obligations are fair, i.e., limited, he has likely dodged a bullet. But If either responsibility is present, he is going to be in a world of pain, possibly emotionally but almost certainly financially.
As an old Canadian, I saw far too much divorce gut close friends and extended family. My wife and myself tried to hold marriages together, she did better than me, but it was always difficult, most especially if there were small children. Few of those children married or even co-habitated successfully, they fully understand the damages created by our family courts. Those effects run through generations. Some American jurisdictions are better than the Canadians, but not by much.
She wasted an entire decade of her most fertile years on him, too. If they don’t have kids, and she’s saying that out loud, 80% chance she’s thinking about dumping him and trying for someone who wants a family. It happens around that age.
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“80% chance she’s thinking about dumping him and trying for someone who wants a family”
Definitely, and I’d say at least 60% she’s already got someone else in her sights and is trying to get him to break up with her (because…. some people are like that maneuvering the other into making the break leaves them with fewer guilty feelings). It might not even be a conscious strategy on her part, sometimes people do things that they don’t understand but which others do.
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Well, that is a definite red flag and he had better immediately seek legal advice to determine his legal obligations in their jurisdiction – do not use a local legal office. If there are no children and his expected support and property obligations are fair, i.e., limited, he has likely dodged a bullet. But If either responsibility is present, he is going to be in a world of pain, possibly emotionally but almost certainly financially.
As an old Canadian, I saw far too much divorce gut close friends and extended family. My wife and myself tried to hold marriages together, she did better than me, but it was always difficult, most especially if there were small children. Few of those children married or even co-habitated successfully, they fully understand the damages created by our family courts. Those effects run through generations. Some American jurisdictions are better than the Canadians, but not by much.
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If they’re in the US, and they’ve been together 10 years, she may have common-law marriage rights by now.
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That is not necessarily a problem; the concern is the court’s decisions on access to children and thus the likely division of assets.
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