Yeah, because if you say that yes, you want to remarry, what if you jinx it? Or what if you don’t meet anybody and end up feeling like a loser? It’s easier to pretend that you are not interested and then position yourself as somebody who unwillingly gave in to the pleas of desperate suitors. It’s a much better look than confessing to spending years desperately trying to scare up a new husband. That’s exactly what I did between marriages.
What people say they want is an indication of absolutely nothing whatsoever except that, at this particular moment, they felt like saying it. This is why I could never understand this whole branch of sociology that conducts questionnaires and then draws conclusions based on what people said like it’s indicative of reality.
Words are not reality. Words people say about themselves are definitely not reality.
Clarissa's Blog 
Attaching some sort of magic power to words is typical of illiterate societies.
Believing that words create reality is typical of Post-modernist thinking.
Believing what people tell you without looking at their actions is typical of idiots or of market researchers.
LikeLike
There’s this methodology in statistics/social sciences which goes by “stated preferences vs revealed preferences,” in which you contrast what people say they prefer vs what their actual behavior reveals.
SP: “We’d all be better off using public transit to reduce pollution.”
RP: Drives to work despite having transit options available.
LikeLike