What You Want Is What You Have

No, they wouldn’t. People who want to move, move. What people say is no indication of anything other than that at this particular moment they felt like saying it for whatever reason.

Only the results matter. What you want is what you have. I want to learn German, so I work on it every single day. If you want to learn German but you aren’t learning it, you don’t really want to learn German.

4 thoughts on “What You Want Is What You Have

  1. I find this broad categorical statement to be very dubious. If I’m dying of a disease and spend my final months on something other than a scramble to find a cure, does that mean I want to die? How difficult does a thing have to be, before it is exempt from this judgment?

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    1. Thank you, at least, for not bringing up concentration camps. People usually come back at this argument with concentration camps.

      As for incurable disease, I currently have two people in my life who have stage 4 cancer. The way they respond to the illness is the exact opposite of each other. Which is to say that even in these terrible circumstances, there’s a lot of room for individual will.

      My best friend died of cancer in her early fifties. She lived four years after the diagnosis but in reality she died on the day of the diagnosis. No symptoms. No pain. But those 4 years were hellish torture. This was horror that I couldn’t wish on anyone. I wanted to help but a few hours in her company gave me suicidal thoughts. It was that bad. And it wasn’t physical. Four years of that, I can’t even imagine.

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  2. I tend to mostly agree with you on this. At the same time, I *know* I struggle to do even things I genuinely enjoy due to pure inertia and/or fatigue. So I’m of two minds here. Not on this particular scenario though, nobody wants to move overseas they just want to whine.

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    1. “nobody wants to move overseas they just want to whine”

      They say they want to move overseas to symbolically remove themselves from some situation in their life that they don’t like and/or to absolve themselves of some guilt related to wherever it is that they find themselves…

      It’s not about physically moving, it’s about removing themselves from the line of blame.

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