A Brilliant Idea for Couples

Fellow Aspie blogger Izgad and his bride Miriam used this brilliant strategy to explore their different communication styles:

Drawing from my theater experience, little game that I invented for us, as a means of thinking about our relationship and explaining how we relate to each other to others, is the BZ and Miriam skit. I play her and she plays me. She tends to play BZ as dour with a penchant for monologuing. I tend to play Miriam as jumpy and ecstatic with a touch more common sense than BZ.

I think that this is an amazing idea. Once, my students did an oral presentation where one student impersonated me teaching a class. That presentation was a lot more helpful to me in my teaching that all of my peer and administrative evaluations combined because it allowed me to see myself through my students’ eyes. And I can’t say that I liked everything that I saw. It was truly a revelation.

I now can’t wait to play this enlightening game with N.

3 thoughts on “A Brilliant Idea for Couples

  1. I first saw this exercise on Daria, when the protagonist and her family were on a family retreat. It didn’t go very well, because they all used it as a chance to take passive aggressive swipes at each other, and it ended with one of them muttering “Everybody hates me…” and storming off.
    So I think that it could work, but only if the people involves were being honest, rather than using it as a chance to be catty.

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