A reader sent me the following article and asked me to comment*:
Stone was called to the principal’s office at Tartan Senior High School this week and told it was inappropriate to bring an adult film star to a high school dance, the Daily Dot reports. However, the 18-year-old student escaped disciplinary action and was not in any trouble with the school, Jennifer McNeil, a representative for the school district, told The Huffington Post. After sending nearly 600 Tweets, Stone had recently received responses from at least two porn stars who said they were willing to attend his prom as long as he provided money for airfare.
In a statement issued to parents and obtained by HuffPost, the North St. Paul-Maplewood-Oakdale School District cited regulations to defend their decision to ban an adult film star from attending the event. In short, the rules state that the district has the right to deny any person admission to a school-sponsored event if “the visit is not in the best interest of students, employees or the school district,” or if it “substantially disrupts the orderly operation of school or school activities,” McNeil said.
All I can do in response is ask the following question: if we can’t trust an 18-year-old adult to decide who his date for the prom should be, then how can we blame the young people for being too immature, indecisive, and irresponsible? How come it’s OK to police who this guy’s date is? And how far will we take this kind of babying of people who are old enough to vote?
I also think that being judgmental of this man’s willingness to pay for companionship (in the form of airfare or any other form) is very hypocritical. How is this any worse than paying for your date’s meal or theater ticket?
As for this woman’s profession, it takes a lot of gall to bar people from anywhere because you don’t happen to approve of their career choices. Unless she is planning to engage in anything illegal right at the prom, then who’s to say that her profession is worse than anybody else’s?
Seriously, the amount of prudishness one encounters every day is daunting.
* By the way, I really love it when people do that. It’s hard to keep track of every interesting bit if news, but with the help of my readers, I can stay informed. Besides, it makes me feel important to be asked to comment. 🙂
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A high school surely has the right to ban a porn star from its Prom. This is a public, not a private event. If the student wishes to indulge himself with such a person in a private event, that should be his own choice. But here he is exposing fellow students, some under the age of 18, to a person of whom many parents would rigorously disapprove. Where should the line be drawn? Should serial pedophiles be welcomed onto a school campus? Should known rapists out on parole be invited to a prom? Should the school tolerate explicit sex right on the dancehall of its Prom, right in the full view of many under-age teenagers? I think not! And any one who does, in my judgment, is perverted.
Good for the school, is my judgment in this case.
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Dude, wtf?
First of all, your argument sounds a lot like ‘if men marry men, then soon men will marry goats!’. You should see how much BS that is. And secondly, how is it possible for there to be public events to which certain members of the public are not invited?
You know what this ia all about? About a bunch of stuck-up people in position of power who ignorantly refuse to acknowledge that sex workers are people too, but instead buy into some shit idea about them being some kind of corruptors that pervert everything that comes into contact with them. And that is a pretty disgusting attitude.
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Well it’s not like she was going to strip off and give all the boys a hummer. Believe it or not, porn stars don’t need to commit a sex act every five minutes and they are just as able to keep their clothes on in public as the average high school student. Even more so, since they do that for a living.
Note: I didn’t go to my high school prom. I had (and still do not have) interest in such things.
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Comparing a porn actor to a pedophile is ludicrous because one is illegal, the other isn’t. One is a *dangerous criminal*, not a normal working person.
Also, last I checked schools do not conduct background checks on who attends the prom so every young student could bring a pedophile if they desired. They didn’t at my school.
As redwraith pointed out your slippery slope argument is fallacious – and also cuts both ways. Where does it stop? Can schools ban atheists or pregnant students? If a school can ban someone who engages in legal but frowned upon activity, they can ban those people.
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Well, you have interesting ideas, so logically, I’d ask you to comment on this. It’s your “fault”, Clarissa!
I can’t comment you post more because I totally agree with it!
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I have no problem at all with sex workers, male or female. They supply an important service. They are much more valuable to society than many financial analysts. Nor do I disrespect them as individuals. A school is a public place, even though it has the power to exclude. Its membership extends beyond sexually experienced individuals. Its membership includes minors who are not (hopefully) excluded from the Prom because of potential explicit sexual behavior on the dance floor.
If an individual openly invites an unknown sex worker to his Prom, he does so with intent. We can be pretty sure what he has in mind. Who knows how far that intent will advance. If you have a 16 year old daughter and would not object to a known sex worker operating explicitly on the floor of a Prom, then you are a pervert, and, in my opinion, you are unfitted to be a parent to that so vulnerable daughter. Shame on you.
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Why is a female porn actress more dangerous to a 16 year old girl than to a boy? 🙂 🙂
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The correct question is:
Why is a female porn actress more dangerous than a boy to a 16 year old girl?
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“They supply an important service. They are much more valuable to society than many financial analysts.”
– That’s very true. 🙂
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What you don’t realize is that these dances are chaperoned. If the student and said porn star engage in intercourse on the dance floor by all means throw them out. But it isn’t fair to assume that based on someone’s profession that he or she will break the dance rules.
At my school dance many people – and I joke not – had intercourse on the dance floor. The ones that got caught got thrown out and that was that. My school couldn’t say ‘well Suzy can’t come because she’s a slut and she’s going to have sex on the dance floor’. What makes that kind of judgment acceptable in the case of a porn star?
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‘..operating explicitly on the floor…”
This made me laugh. How terrified you are, charlie boy!
We should also bar parents who are surgeons as they will be obviously performing surgery on unwilling 16 year olds. And lumberjacks because they’ll chop down every human being in sight. Explicitly on the floor. Oh noez!
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Thank you, thank you, thank you.
For half a second, I thought I was just imagining the hypocrisy in this statement.
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If she plans to practice her business right at the prom, then, of course, she should be asked to leave. But usually people manage to avoid plying their trade at social events. Even some Spanish teachers abstain from reciting verb conjugations at parties, as hard as it is to do that. 🙂
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I think it is a weird story. It’s not as though said sex worker were a friend or someone he knows — the whole thing is so as to bring a sex worker to the prom, right?
What’s he trying to accomplish?
Is it an art project of some kind … is it like (this just occurred to me) advertising for a ballerina to come to the prom with me, so I could have a marvelously decorative, dance related date?
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Maybe he just can’t get a date. I vaguely remember that not having a date at that age was the end of the world. Teenagers.
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It was probably a dare he made to his friends. “I’m gonna invite a porn star to go with me to the prom!” “No way, dude. You’re full of shit.” “Oh yeah?”
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If the kids still do the freak dancing that was popular when I was in high school, then she’d fit right in if she decided to start practising her craft on the dance floor. 🙂
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Yes, I don’t think the best porn performer in the world can give a sexier dance than a regular hormone-driven teenager. 🙂
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