I’d been amply warned that people feel an enormous aggression towards pregnant women but I didn’t know it would be as true as it proved to be.
OK, folks, I adore you all but you have got to get a grip on your desire to make me a receptacle of your aggression. I don’t want any more comments about how my baby will be defective, diseased, dead, messed up, a neurotic, an invalid, or a future serial killer. I also don’t want to hear about how my life will be horrible, messed up, out of control, and filled with neurotics and future serial killers. Seriously, you are scaring me with the amount of negativity I’m getting here.
I will continue writing posts about my pregnancy and about my parenting philosophy. If this makes you angry, upset, emotional, enraged, pessimistic, etc., I kindly ask you to take these emotions someplace else.
I also thank people who have managed not to be negative about this development.
Clarissa's Blog 
Perhaps you could stop condemning other folks’ parenting philosophies while you’re at it. I haven’t been reading your recent stuff, and try to avoid your blog when you discuss parenting, but I seriously hope you’re not still saying that everybody who does any form of attachment parenting has unresolved sexual issues. Because that is messed up. People would probably be nicer to you about your parenting ideas if you weren’t so horribly judgmental and disgusting about how MOST other people parent, whether it be AP parenting or just mainstream US parenting.
LikeLike
Parenting philosophies or control-freak brainwashing?
LikeLike
“Perhaps you could stop condemning other folks’ parenting philosophies while you’re at it.”
– Once again, I will ask that you provide links to where I go to other people’s blogs to condemn them.
” I seriously hope you’re not still saying that everybody who does any form of attachment parenting has unresolved sexual issues”
– You are ascribing your own weird beliefs to me. I only said such people were freakazoids. The sexual interpretation is all your own, and I wonder what makes you advance it.
“People would probably be nicer to you about your parenting ideas if you weren’t so horribly judgmental and disgusting about how MOST other people parent, whether it be AP parenting or just mainstream US parenting.”
– For the fifteenth time, can you show me instances of me being judgmental to people on their blogs? Of me intruding on people’s spaces to offer unsolicited advice? That’s something only you do.
LikeLike
“As Jong rightly observes, people channel their unrequited sexual energies into obsessive parenting. They bring children into their beds, attach them to their nipples until the children are ready to go to school, and hover around them with a passion that they have no idea how to direct at an adult.”
LikeLike
Exactly. And since this is never enough to absorb all of their unrequited sexuality, they also bully those who dare have an opinion about their diseased entertainments. And when their miserable children grow up and tell them to bugger off, they become especially rabid.
LikeLike
Hummm, even a crazy twanzphobic 😉 like me would never go as far on personal comments. Even though I’m anti-natalist, this is not the place to judge your personal decision.
LikeLike
is there any topic of discussion that you make about transphobia
like how
how do you do it
LikeLike
Yes, you have been very normal about this and thank you for that.
LikeLike
I don’t think it’s the pregnancy per se.
But let’s face it, you have an authoritarian personality, strong opinions and a sublime disinterest in data from people’s lives that doesn’t match your opinions. There’s nothing wrong with that but it’s not the usual pattern in the US and many/most people aren’t equipeed to deal with it so there’s floundering, some of which seems hostile (some of it is probably but not all of it).
LikeLike
I’ve had this personality my entire life. The rage in perfectly peaceful people is only coming out now.
My sister, who doesn’t have a blog and never had a single discussion on parenting with anybody, had the exact same aggression coming at her from complete strangers. Mine is not an isolated case. People report it all the time.
LikeLike
Well, on the bright side you (and your readers) now how to really cheese people off. Actually getting pregnant is an extreme thing to do just to grind people’s nerves, but you never know when it could come in handy (for those able of course).
I’m trying to think if there’s any male equivalent that brings out the latent prophets of doom (or roman games audience) side of people lke pregnancy apparently does.
LikeLike
“Actually getting pregnant is an extreme thing to do just to grind people’s nerves, but you never know when it could come in handy (for those able of course).”
– Yes, I totally found the best thing to get on people’s nerves. 🙂 🙂
This is a great way to measure people’s emotional stability, though. Those who are not made to feel enraged by the news are healthy. Those who go into a tailspin – not so much.
LikeLike
“I will continue writing posts about my pregnancy and about my parenting philosophy. If this makes you angry, upset, emotional, enraged, pessimistic, etc., I kindly ask you to take these emotions someplace else.”
But Clarissa, I have EMOTIONS and I feel it is important to let people on the internet know about them.
Perhaps you are not appreciating how important my emotions are
LikeLike
Yes, I know, FREEDOM OF SPEECH. 🙂 🙂
LikeLike
Gosh darn it, how can I call myself a free man if I can’t rant about pregnancy on someone else’s personal blog?? I’m sorry, but I was under the impression this was AMERICA, MA’AM.
LikeLike
Yes, very very unpatriotic of me. As a student recently wrote, “all immigrants should be eliminated.” 🙂 🙂
LikeLike
But Clarissa, I have EMOTIONS and I feel it is important to let people on the internet know about them.
Me too. So I started my own blog. 😉
LikeLike
http://endometriosis.org/treatments/mirena/
LikeLike
I’m not precisely sure what this has to do with the subject at hand.
LikeLike
I’m sorry if I offended you in any way (knowing that USA types are very easily offended).
LikeLike
I was wondering about the advice and doom mode, people do do that about pregnancy and children, I was wondering why … and then thought: they do it about other milestones for women as well. Everything is always going to be awful.
I never understood, after always doing well in school, why people thought more and more that I would fail the further I got. When I became a professor the doom and gloom factor from others got so high that I wanted to leave the profession just so they would stop terrorizing me.
I have just realized, they do it about everything.
LikeLike
Cheer up. They are just jealous.
LikeLike
My picky eater comment wasn’t meant to be aggressive or apocalyptic, I hope it wasn’t taken like that. It was more an expression of my frustration at having offered lovely home-cooked meals, done all the things you’re supposed to do to introduce lots of different foods, and my kids still turn their noses up at a number of annoyingly useful foods (like cheese). But as you said, they’re human, have their own tastes and that’s all there is to it. Me too, but I do eat cheese! 🙂
LikeLike
No, pickiness is very normal and not at all apocalyptic. 🙂
LikeLike