OK, I need to stop reading my blogroll because the creepiness continues. I just stumbled across a very poorly written and rambling post titled “The Cleveland Kidnapping: Fifty Shades of BDSM“:
One of the conundrums of those who engage in BDSM or “lifestyle” related activities is because of the “stigma” usually associated with those engaging in such activities; many people will not publicly acknowledge those activities or their involvement. This is the true tragedy of situations like this because things like this happen not only because no one acted – namely the police department. They also happen because secrets are kept and people don’t speak.
The author seems to be saying that the real tragedy here is the stigma experienced by practitioners of BDSM. Yes, totally, that’s precisely what is so tragic about the whole situation. The idea that rape happens because rapists choose to rape seems to be alien to this weirdo. No, it’s all about “secrets” and 50 Shades of Grey.
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This is a headdeskingly bad post. Did anyone even make a BDSM connection before this person started tsk tsk-ing about careful who you play with?
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No, I don’t think anybody has had the bad taste to make that connection and mention 550 Shades.
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@Stille — EXACTLY!
My eyes are rolling back in my head so hard.
There’s no mention of BSDM because consent is key. There was no consent! God, what a stupid blogger. Fifty Shades of Grey is not about a consensual BSDM relationship; it’s really bad porn about an abusive stalker!
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“There’s no mention of BSDM because consent is key. There was no consent! ”
– It is scary that people don’t see a difference between a consensual sexual practice and such a horrible crime.
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Well, it’s all about me, really isn’t it? Perhaps the Deity orchestrated the event to try to teach me something or to bring me comfort?
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I was almost going to puke while reading the USA today article, but this one I do not even dare to read it.
And another thing I found scandalous: how media precipitaded themselves to interview people with disappeared children or other family members, to see how they feel about the Cleveland abjection, to ask them to tell their stories again, and to ask whether the Cleveland abjection gives them hope. Gosh… can you give these poor people some peace?
But in the midst of this terrible story your typo 550 shades of grey made me smile. Can you imagine? 550 shades?
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“And another thing I found scandalous: how media precipitaded themselves to interview people with disappeared children or other family members, to see how they feel about the Cleveland abjection, to ask them to tell their stories again, and to ask whether the Cleveland abjection gives them hope”
– Disgusting!
“But in the midst of this terrible story your typo 550 shades of grey made me smile. Can you imagine? 550 shades?”
🙂 I read the 1st part of the trilogy and it was so excruciatingly boring that it felt like 55555550 shades of boredom. 🙂
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I think (kind of guessing cause the link caused parts of my brain to run away in terror) that the idea is that if people were more open to BSMD (or whatever the hell it is) then this could have been prevented……. somehow.
Taking a few imaginative leaps (and piecing together bits and pieces here and there) the author seems to be assuming there was some degree of consent in the beginning*. If only the vanilla squares weren’t so down on the BMDS people then the young women would have let people know ahead of time and so when things went wrong they would have known where to go looking.
Of course what the author ignores or isn’t aware of is that the stigma attached to BSDM is probably a big part of the appeal for some people who would just move on to something weirder in its absense.
*nb, I don’t buy that idea for a second but the link isn’t the only place where the idea seems to be floated
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“I think (kind of guessing cause the link caused parts of my brain to run away in terror) that the idea is that if people were more open to BSMD (or whatever the hell it is)”
– I had the same reaction. It felt like somebody was pouring smoke into my brain. I’m used to reading bad writing that my students produce but this was really special.
“Taking a few imaginative leaps (and piecing together bits and pieces here and there) the author seems to be assuming there was some degree of consent in the beginning*. If only the vanilla squares weren’t so down on the BMDS people then the young women would have let people know ahead of time and so when things went wrong they would have known where to go looking.”
– Once again, I’m happy I don’t read any online discussions of these events because the explanations people are likely to come up with are very very disturbing.
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