Have you heard of this study that is getting massively publicized?
Dr. Vijay Singh and colleagues used data from a larger national survey. The 500 men were asked: “Over the course of your relationship, how often have you ever done any of these things (pushed, grabbed, or shoved; threw something; slapped or hit; kicked, bit, or hit with a fist; beat up; choked; burned or scalded; threatened with a knife or gun) to your current spouse/partner?” Nineteen percent admitted they had done so at least once, the team reported in Journal of the American Board of Family Medicine. “If men could enter responses in a private way, (the percentage) could have been even higher,” Singh noted.
This study would have a lot more value if the questioning had been conducted of both men and women. Out of the 14 behaviors described here, I engaged in seven. Obviously, there is no excuse, these were horrible, horrible things to do. But it bothers me that these actions are presented as something that men do when, in reality, it is what bad people do. Bad people irrespective of gender. I think we are strong enough to acknowledge that.
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Excellent point. I suspect if we knew the truth, women and men might be equally bad. We have more violence by women in films and TV than we used to. Even in movies from decades ago, it was common to see a woman slap a man in response to a verbal indiscretion by the man. It is true that words can be abusive. However, we have a cultural double standard, among at least some people, that it is appropriate for a woman respond to a verbal slight with physical violence.
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“We’ve replaced your honeymoon with a live fire combat exercise … let’s just see what happens …”
Seriously, nobody does couples self-defence training anymore?
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