The lines men use to meet a person change as one gets older. Now it’s all:
“Such a beautiful woman / pretty lady* must surely be married???????”
. . .
“Well, I hope your husband appreciates his good fortune / is treating you right???????”
. . .
“And you are happy with him, too / not looking for nothing better???????”
*Depending on the man’s social class.
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The one I get from young women in Ghana is, “Do you have a girlfriend?” I tell them “No, I have a wife.”
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You must look very young for admirers to put you in the man-with-a-girlfriend range. π
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This picture is two years old. But, it is still mid-40s.
http://jpohl.blogspot.com/2013/09/a-picture-of-me-from-this-morning.html
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It’s great to see what you look like. π You are very attractive. But you don’t look in the least American. I don’t mean that Americans are unattractive. But you look very Western European. I’d guess you were from Denmark on the Netherlands.
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βDo you have a girlfriend?β I tell them βNo, I have a wife.β
Does one preclude the other in Ghana?
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Otto is American. Americans are very faithful. (Which is very commendable.)
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Americans are very faithful???
I am not so sure of this.
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Compared to people from my Russian-speaking culture, they are shockingly faithful. If somebody cheats, they are ashamed of it, keep it a secret. Growing up, the only woman I knew who wasn’t juggling a string of lovers at any given time was my mother. And here I honestly cannot imagine a group of women discussing their extramarital exploits in front of their small children like they were always discussed by older women in front of me.
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It looks like same sex pick up lines will soon be illegal in Kyrgyzstan.
http://jpohl.blogspot.com/2015/06/bill-to-outlaw-gay-propaganda-passes-in.html
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Utter barbarity.
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American culture is changing. Erica Jong years ago coined the phrase, the “zipless fuck”, to refer casual sex with no emotional involvement. Now we have popular websites like Ashley Madison that a designed to connect married people who want to play outside the relationship.
It makes sense that a growing acceptance of diversity would lead to other behaviors emerging from the closet.
There is a tendency to confuse loyalty with conservatism, which isn’t necessarily true. With Lyn and I, it’s not true at all.
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“Erica Jong years ago coined the phrase, the βzipless fuckβ, to refer casual sex with no emotional involvement.”
Nah, decades befor Erica, there was ‘Shave ’em dry’ which meant the same thing.
By Ma Rainey in 1924
“Ain’t crazy ’bout my yeller, I ain’t wild about my brown,
Makes no difference when the sun goes down,
Eeh, hey, daddy won’t you shave ’em dry.
When you see two women runnin’ hand in hand,
You can bet your life they got the other one’s man,
Eeh, hey, hey, daddy let me shave ’em dry.
Don’t let that man come in my home,
If his wife is here I don’t mean no harm,
Eeh, hey, daddy let me shave ’em dry.”
The most famous (now) song with the expression is Lucille Bogan’s from 1935.
“I’m gon’ turn back my mattress, and let you oil my springs,
I want you to grind me daddy, ’til the bell do ring,
Oh daddy, want you to shave ’em dry”
It also contains some of the most profound and moving lyrics ever written in the English language.
“Now your nuts hang down like a damn bell sapper,
And your diΡk stands up like a steeple,
Your goddam Π°ss-hole stands open like a church door,
And the crabs walks in like people”
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“Erica Jong years ago coined the phrase, the βzipless fuckβ, to refer casual sex with no emotional involvement”
Nyah, long before Erica the expression “shave ’em dry” was used by blues singers in the 1920’s and 30’s to mean the same thing.
I had a longer version with examples but it’s not showing up and there’s no ‘your comment is in moderation’ note either.
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“I had a longer version with examples but itβs not showing up and thereβs no βyour comment is in moderationβ note either.”
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