My blog went crazy popular two minutes after I started it because I scandalized people by suggesting that the labels they put on themselves were not answers to anything. They are an opportunity to ask questions.
You can still find that ancient post about asexuality where people got rabid at the idea that one could follow up the words “I’m asexual” with “but why?”
To me it’s the most natural thing in the world.
“I’m not a morning person. But why?”
“I hate networking. But why?”
“I’m gay / not gay. But why?”
“I’m autistic / diabetic / monogamous / cat person / XYZ. BUT. WHY???”
People seem to think that finding a reason why they are the way they are will force them to try to stop being it. But that’s silly. Self-knowledge doesn’t take power away. It gives power. What’s weak and dumb is saying “that’s just how I am” because it’s swapping awareness for narratives and labels created by other people.
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