A successful teacher doesn’t bring themselves into the classroom. They bring their teaching persona. This is especially important if you are working in secondary education or with freshmen in college. If students find a chink in your armor, they’ll eat you alive. What’s curious is that male high school teachers often suffer quite badly because they keep going into the classroom just as they are, without any padding between their vulnerable human self and students.
I had a student last year who was desperate to provoke me. What he didn’t know is that it’s impossible to provoke me because I’m not there. The persona is.
Every class the student went out of his way to inform me that he hadn’t brought the textbook and couldn’t write anything because he lacked both a pen and a notebook. When that failed to elicit any reaction, he faked falling asleep. Then he pretended to listen to music in his headphones. Then he took to walking around the classroom.
I was completely indifferent to these antics because I can’t feel hurt or disrespected in the classroom since I’m not there. I actually really liked the student because his Spanish was superb and I could always count on him to answer everything correctly and set the example for other students.
The important thing is that you can’t fake it. Faking is a mistake because students will figure it out immediately. And the most crucial thing ever: never make it about yourself. I don’t mean don’t share stories from your life. Of course do that because it’s a great strategy. But don’t make the interaction about your feelings or your real-life self.
I’m writing this because somebody I know who’s a school teacher was almost in tears today because, he says, students are bullying him. What he doesn’t get is that he brings his vulnerability, his self that can be bullied into the classroom, and that freaks students out. They realize that if an adult is terrified of bullying, then they definitely don’t stand a chance against fear of bullying. And they try to destroy him because the spectacle of his vulnerability hurts them.
What’s hard is leaving the ironclad, unreachable persona at work every day. Nobody wants to interact with a Teflon creature outside of the classroom.