People on Facebook are saying that it’s humanly impossible to avoid googling one’s exes.
I’ve never done something like this, though, and had no idea it was such a popular pastime. For me, all of my exes, including my first husband, fell off the face of the earth the moment I lost interest in the relationship.
I haved a depleted emotional range and am incapable of caring about former love interests. Maybe I should go sit in my tent some more.
Gosh, what a creepy thing to do. Also I don’t think mine have names unusual enough to find easily. Furthermore, few people are as visible online as academics. Even if they’ve got a good job and all of that, it doesn’t mean there are a million Google hits for them. I’d Google anyone I was looking for, if I wanted to call them or something, but Googling an ex just for the heck of it sounds like spying or something. Maybe I am also unsettled because I fear what they may have become — one that I still know, because he’s in town, isn’t someone I’d get involved with today and the knowledge that he is my ex is freaky.
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I haved a depleted emotional range and am incapable of caring about former love interests. Maybe I should go sit in my tent some more.
I’m friends with one ex on FB. I’m not sure why anymore. I pretend he’s dead for reasons unrelated to the breakup. Once in a blue moon he’ll “like” something on my page or a comment I make. I have a surprising number of interests who have FB requests or LinkedIn requests I’m currently ignoring. It’s probably good that I detach, but a side effect is that I can’t care very much about maintaining relationships with people or starting them. Yes we had a lovely conversation. No, I don’t care one way or the other whether we speak again.
People are “power-and-control” obsessive.
They always feel like they “own” the lives of anybody they’ve ever had contact with in the course of their lifetime.
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