A Fuss About Nothing

Women who try to obtain any medical treatment are asked about their menstrual cycles and sex life, on the off chance that they are pregnant, and not believed if they say it can’t be so. Medical procedures or prescriptions – all of them, basically – which can possibly lead to a miscarriage are now a malpractice suit concern. Soon they will be a manslaughter concern. Women won’t be able to go to the doctor.

Where are people getting all this from? I can’t get even my OB-GYN to evince this much interest in my cycle. I’ve been in and out of doctors’ offices in recent years (give birth earlier rather than later, ladies, if at all possible), and I’ve noticed none of this. I had to pee on a stick before the surgery last month but there was a lot more grilling on whether I smoke (it can impact anaesthesia if you are not honest, so be honest) and whether I’m allergic to anything on the planet.

I’m sure no doctor wants to provoke a miscarriage, and if they do, they shouldn’t be in the medical profession because they are mentally ill. But if anything, it’s too easy to get procedures and medication in this country if you have insurance. Maybe we should fret about the really serious problems with the medical insurance business in this country and about the people who have no insurance at all instead of coming up with these delusional scenarios.

As for women not being believed when they say they can’t be pregnant, this is a really childish statement. Just last week I had a conversation with a woman who desperately wanted to get pregnant, had been trying to get pregnant, got pregnant, developed obvious symptoms, and went to a doctor whom she tried to persuade she must be seriously ill because she couldn’t possibly be pregnant. A doctor who “believes” instead of administering the easiest, most non-invasive test in history is a quack. And the woman who knew she couldn’t be pregnant now has a beautiful, adored toddler.

6 thoughts on “A Fuss About Nothing

    1. And I’m sure you were neither scared nor upset by it because there’s nothing shameful or upsetting about being treated as somebody who has female physiology.

      What we do need is to abolish the horrible prohibition on C-sections before 39 weeks because they are currently seen as late-term abortions. With the growing gestational diabetes and macros rates, this is a ridiculous practice and I hate it for obvious reasons.


      1. Actually, it was kind of bad. I was trying to get an abortion and needed it to be before 12 weeks. It had to have been conceived before August 1 because that was the day we had broken up. MD would not believe I might not have just had sex later with someone else and be lying, because fetus was not growing right. So would not authorize abortion, fetus was too small still. Then I went to a non recommended practitioner to get the procedure done. Fetus turned out to be dead already which was why it was so small. This could have gone to septicemia.


          1. I find it is the white – male MDs who are fixated on the topic of pregnancy and who also have this idea you might not know whether you had sex or not, or when. (Maybe it is harder for men to know if they’ve had sex, or remember??? – I just came up with this snarky thought.)


  1. Around here, women see Physician Assistants instead of Doctors a lot of the time, as my wife does, and you can bet garbage to doornails they go through that routine.


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