This article should have been called, instead, “When your mother is a horrible person.”
The saddest part is not that mom is a jerk but that the aged daughter is incapable of being mature about it.
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This article should have been called, instead, “When your mother is a horrible person.”
The saddest part is not that mom is a jerk but that the aged daughter is incapable of being mature about it.
This article is either fiction masquerading as real-life tragedy, or a deranged plea for external intervention.
NOBODY advertises plans to commit murder in advance if they actually expect to commit the crime. Sarah Lyall is a competent writer, but she must know that her readers aren’t stupid enough to take this silliness at face value.
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Not even a good writer, and not realistic. You can’t stockpile that many drugs from the hospice service. And the hospice service will give you advice on how to handle things.
Dreidel, how much pain are you in as you die from cancer, if you have the hospice doses of Ativan and morphine? They had themselves and us only giving in response to certain reactions from her like agitation, and v. low amounts otherwise. A lot of the time she didn’t seem to be feeling pain although we never knew for sure. While she could still speak she didn’t complain of pain but of weakness. But she was one of those who when things were really serious wouldn’t create drama, so she could have been hiding it. ?
My older cousin did kill herself with hospice morphine when she was 93, due to pancreatic cancer. She was a nurse. She warned us that she would do this — when the pain started to get bad, she was going to dose up, in hopes of dying a little bit ahead of the real agony. They had estimated 3 months of life but she died in 2.
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I meant a competent writer as far as composing maudlin melodrama that works up emotions in certain hack fiction that by nature isn’t very realistic.
But numerous details give the “article” away as fiction.
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The part that got to me was the hospice nurse threatening to call the cops.
When my grandfather was in his last months of life with aggressive jaw cancer and on hospice, we expressed concerns about giving him opioids, because he had a history of having respiratory issues when on opioids.
The hospice doctor basically said that he could die in pain or not in pain, but he was dying either way.
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