Ukrainian Brain

When I see moms on local FB start a post with the words “Please help. I’m desperate and just don’t know what to do. I’ve been crying non-stop for 3 days,” my Ukrainian brain immediately thinks that this will be followed with “I can’t make the rent / my kid’s been diagnosed with something / I lost my job / can’t pay the bills / can’t afford surgery, etc.” My heart skips a beat and the floodgates of compassion open.

So when the post continues with “I was planning to pay for horseback riding lessons for my 3-year-old but they say they have no openings for the next two months,” this produces cognitive dissonance for me.

I’m very happy people have no greater cause for desperation than that a toddler will have to wait for her horseback lesson but is there really a burning need to be so dramatic about it? If people think it’s cute to adopt this persona of a spoiled rich brat, it really isn’t.


16 thoughts on “Ukrainian Brain”

      1. Mommy wants to keep up with the horsey set. Failing that, she wants her kid to be friends with the horsey set and mom friends with their parents. That group tends to be insular.

        There’s a class of people who rode horses at my high school. They all had been doing it since they were small and their parents were either independently wealthy or very upper middle class. The ones who had been doing it since their infancy had their rooms plastered with competition ribbons.

        She isn’t part of that class otherwise she’d know the unofficial deadlines or ways to sneak past “the stable has no openings for the next two months.”


  1. This is beyond the comprehension of my American brain, and I was raised in the Midwest.

    You’re absolutely certain that the mother works? I mean, damn.


  2. I haven’t heard of this although I have heard of desperation about not getting into the right kindergarten. Also about getting thrown out of private school. I think these desperations are about having to send child to a school that won’t be all-white, though.


  3. Meanwhile in Kavanaugh land:

    Cancel ALL hearings until we’ve FBI investigated EVERYTHING Kavanaugh has ever done! Leave no stone unturned! If it takes months, so be it 😉


      1. “This could be a loooooong hearing.”

        Nah. Going to be over in a single day, and then Kavanaugh will be confirmed.

        You could see the panic in lefty eyes today, when Rachel Maddow was frowning and looking scared to death while she waved her hands hysterically on her show, instead of giving her usual maniacal smirk. Fired partisan hack Joan Walsh was on a CNN panel tonight, shaking her head so many times you could hear the rattle through your television speaker.

        Now MSNBC and CNN media darling Michael Avenatti is riding to their rescue, claiming that he has bombshells that will bring down Kavanaugh. Sure he does. The Republicans on the Judiciary Committee send him a letter asking him for facts that they could investigate, and he wrote back telling them to wait and see — exactly the same nonsense that he said repeatedly about a certain whore client whose claims would destroy the Trump presidency.

        I can’t believe how easy the Democrats are making all this! 🙂


  4. From a Conservative German Jew who just killed me with humor:

    “Leftists see conservatives as some quaint backwards people who cannot keep up with the changes of time and who absorb all the wicket people in their ranks. Obviously, there is some truth in it. Not in the backward part, but in the assertion of a big tent. The leftist ideology is such a strong force that people with all kind of opinions revolted against them for the last two centuries. We all know that there is a significant number of nuts in the conservative movement and we cannot throw them out like the left because we are no purists. It comes with the tolerance of the right that it absorbs the crazies quite naturally.”


    1. @ el:

      “Leftists see conservatives as some quaint backwards people who cannot keep up with the changes of time and who absorb all the wicket people in their ranks.”

      Before this debate can go any further, please define who the strange “wicket people”in the conservative ranks might be. Are you referring to the misguided noble people devoted to the ideals of the sport of cricket, where all rules of competition are scrupulously fair, rendering them totally incapable of mounting any effective opposition to the savagely amoral tactics of the bloodthirsty left?

      Or did you mean to type “wick people,” the crazies whose heads of twisted thread and candle wax catch on fire spontaneously, and quickly burn themselves out with little effect on party policy?


  5. I know this blog is biased, but I got interested in Josef Joffe’s book “The Good German – The Career of a Moral Superpower.”

    // Joffe is senior editor of the newspaper ZEIT which is arguably the most influential news outlet in elite circles. He is what Germans call a “Transatlantiker” and Americans call a “globalist.”

    The man is a fellow of the Hoover Institute and has ties into the RINO wing of the Republican party. He basically has all positions of the political left except for his staunch support for every US American and Israeli foreign policy decision.

    [about the book] And this is what Joffe is very honest about. He explicitly calls the pacifism of Germany immature and advocates for controlled violence.

    In this interview he details how the “culture of restraint” was the right thing to do in the past. Then it was right to refer to the horrid past and not to take up weapons to combine “politics and violence like a normal state.”

    he means to say that the Kosovo intervention, Afghanistan, Mali etc were used to bring down pacifist sentiments. Germany is going to be a major military power, he says.

    A Jew advocating for German militarism is … interesting.


  6. Do you think such use of gender-inclusive nouns may spread into English?

    // Like English German has the “generic masculine form.” This is the grammar rule that when the gender of a person is unknown or unimportant, you proceed referring to him with “he.” It also means that when you refer to individuals pars pro toto for a group or for a group itself, you may use the male name only. It is “actors and managers” and not “actresses, actors, managers, and managresses.” In normal speech you would also proceed with a hypothetical pars pro toto sentence like “If an actor speaks to his manager…” and not “If an actor or actress speaks to his manager or manageress….” To make it worse nearly all professions or nouns that describe people have both a male and female form. A compromise to get the awkwardness going is the interim-I (German: Binnen-I). The equivalent postfix of “(r)ess” in English is the postfix “in” in German (e.g. ManagerIn). So you can write “actRess” and the capitalized “I” means that men are also addressed. When reading it out one is supposed to fill in “actor and actress”. But we are past that stage now and have two equivalent additional options that are prefered to the interim-I: the gender star () and underscore. This is to remember all the other genders. So Lena Dunham is an actress or an act_ress. In case of Ms Dunham I would prefer the (Kleene) star because it makes it look more like an expletive. German knows far more words that can mark the female sex and the more you want to address women (and aaaaall the other genders) separately, the clumsier the sentences become.


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