First of all, yes, Heard was absolutely abusive towards Depp. She’s a liar and a disgusting person. Yes, male victims of domestic abuse exist. My great-grandmother abused my great-grandfather in front of me, including physically. I loved him deeply, and this will never stop hurting.
The problem is, Depp didn’t win on abuse charges. He won on defamation charges over a couple of extremely nebulous phrases in an article. This is a dangerous precedent. For us. A very rich man won his battle, and we lost.
The idea that Depp’s win will somehow trickle down to the rest of abused men is exactly the idea behind #MeToo. And we all saw how that turned out. Nothing ever trickles down.
This is yet another feel-good moment that we will pay for in the future.
Class consciousness is a term that fell out of use, and what a shame. We keep identifying with these mega rich people who don’t give a hoot about us. We are emotionally attached to them, and they aren’t emotionally attached to us. Any relationship of this kind is unhealthy.