People have been asking why men don’t read fiction. It was invented for women, it was always targeted mostly at women, and it’s consumed mostly by women for the past 200 years. (Before that, very few people read at all). Why is it so?
Because of their different physiology, men and women have a different relationship with time. A woman’s greatest work happens when she isn’t doing anything. Pregnancy is mostly waiting around. We don’t actively build a child. Our bodies do that by themselves. Of course, labor itself is hard labor but everything before it kind of just involves existing.
This is why women are physiologically more adapted to non-utilitarian pursuits. We know at a very deep level that it’s not necessary to do anything useful or productive to render our crowning achievement. Not only pregnancy but also taking care of a child involves a lot of just waiting around.
Men, on the other hand, never gained any evolutionary advantage from doing useless things. Just lying there for hours as a happy recipient of art with no goal as to how to use it in practice doesn’t feel right. As a boy, yes, because you are waiting to grow up. As a man, though, it just feels weird.
Men will read if they find a practical, utilitarian explanation for why they are doing it. When N started reading Demon Copperhead, he wondered what the purpose of doing it was. Then he decided to put the activity into his productivity time tracker under the category “Personal Betterment”, and he’s now fine with it. Men are much likelier to read non-fiction because they can see it as something useful. “I’m reading this to understand how things work” makes more sense to them than “I invested 23 hours of my life into finding out how these non-existent people met, courted and married”.
Of course, men who read fiction after adolescence and before retirement exist. But go to the nearest bookstore, observe the entire carrels of Colleen Hoover’s books at the entrance followed by several tables of mommy-lit, pink beach reads, and the extraordinary number of novels with the words “wife” and “mother” in the title, and tell me if you honestly believe these men aren’t a small minority. A great minority. A minority I love. But a minority, nonetheless.
Men are made to feel bad about not being “more like women” in this respect but this is unfair. People simply follow their body rhythms. Physiology is not a moral category. Nobody is better or worse for relating to time as their physiology prompts them to do.