Ramsey is right. These people shouldn’t get married. There’s no love in the relationship. On either side there’s no love. She bitches about him to strangers, he humiliates her about money. These are people in love with their egos who have no feeling for each other.
There’s a lot of hate going around for Ramsey, but most of his advice is solid.
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My husband is a huge fan.
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\\ “The No. 1 cause of divorce in North America today is money fights and money problems
Explains a lot regarding low level of divorce among relatively rich people.
Money problems is a huge stressor.
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You can’t get financially stable without impulse control and self-discipline. These are the same qualities that are needed for lifelong marriages.
N and I lived in poverty. We experienced debt, unemployment, we lived in a studio apartment, in crappy rentals, with one old beater of a car that would stop in the middle of the street and wouldn’t start. And we had zero fights or disagreements around money.
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exactly.
Similar for us. Never been in debt, but the first decade of marriage– with kids!– lived below the US poverty line.
We didn’t fight about money (or much of anything else: we have very similar habits and priorities). We did become very very good at frugal living.
People fighting about money isn’t about how much money they have. It’s about other things.
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This can’t be said often enough. Fights about money are about something other than money.
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Yeah, either your vows mean something or they don’t. We certainly worried about finances, but we did not fight about it. We took our vows seriously.
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