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Yes, and I almost remained single because of this. I kept meeting men who cooked, who loved to cook, who wanted to impress me with their cooking skills. And I didn’t need that. I found it very unnecessary and, frankly, annoying.

Now I understand that it was some sort of a class thing. The men were trying to access a higher rung on the class ladder. They weren’t accessing me, though, because I most certainly do not need anybody else in my kitchen.

And it was always these really fancy, convoluted, frou-frou meals they tried to cook for me. I suffered.

And then I met N who needs detailed step-by-step instructions on how to cook plain pasta. I knew we were made for each other.

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    Anonymous

    We both learned most of our cooking skills after marriage, and we both cook competently. The benefit of “both” here is: between his food allergies and my diabetes, the kids don’t get deprived of whole classes of foods. What’s funny is that the kids have some very pointed opinions about anything where our cooking overlaps: they do not like my husband to make chili, or me to make pasta dishes. It is not allowed. Only Mama can make the chili or the coconut curry. Only Dad can make spaghetti with meat sauce or beef and broccoli. Exclusive domains.

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      oldcowboy3

      Yeah, I suspect it may be as much family size as gender. Without servants, the contribution of older siblings were necessary, and it seemed that both parents were particularly busy around breakfast time ;-D

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        We are teaching the older ones to cook now, and there are some things they are quite good at, but not yet to the point of being able to plan and execute a meal for more than just themselves. It’s a goal for this school year: level up to “able to prepare one basic meal for the family” along with “basic automotive oil change.” File under “Home ec.” 😉 I don’t have opinions about gender-based skillsets, but I am determined my offspring will leave my home with a more comprehensive set of life skills than I had when I reached adulthood.

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    cliff arroyo

    OT: Dobyr den from sunny Bulgaria, a country that has many political faults but which is very unlikely to open its border to Turkey to let in thousands of migrants, so there’s that.

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    Anonymous

    My husband has a mother who did not allow him into the kitchen as a child. When I met him he could not tell the mozzarella from the pizza dough. Now he does most of the cooking. I think his brain is ideally suited for cooking since it involves following a series of clear, linear steps. My brain is better suited at dealing with complex problems involving scheduling and the psychology of family members, like tricking my child into doing something he doesn’t want to do or scheduling child care with complicated grandparents or being constantly interrupted when doing simple household chores by whatever goes through my childs head.
    I would assume that it might be like that in many couples and that the way society has evolved makes cooking more a male domain, so it makes sense that men showcase their cooking while dating.

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    Anonymous

    Wow! You are such an ingrate. The men did not lose anything by being with you.

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      Clarissa

      Ah, the troll is back. Long time no see, troll.

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