Sunday Link Encyclopedia and Self-Promotion

People have been doing some great blogging recently, so today’s list is quite long.

The state that has the greatest number of abortion restrictions also leads in the number of rapes of school age girls. This is not surprising. You promote hatred of women on the state level and you will see it flourish on interpersonal level, too.

Let’s support with many hits a blogger who really likes me. People with good reading tastes should be promoted. :-) People who like me should really be promoted.

While conservatives are mostly hung up on keeping women, non-whites, gays, and Muslims under control, liberals seem to want to grind fucking everybody under the heels of their giant (sustainable, fair-trade, cruelty-free organic leather) jackboots. But gently. In a caring, eco-friendly manner.” You’ve got to love a blogegr with such a great sense of humor.

If it’s highly unlikely that you’ll write, decide not to. Don’t hope you will. There’s no particular nobility in that sentiment.” Now, this is a person who writes beautifully.

How to have amazing sex every day.

In my view, we should treat disgust the way that we treat love. That is to say, if someone tells you that they are in love with someone else, no matter what your personal feelings about the object of their affection, it is appropriate to respect their opinion on this matter. Likewise if someone tells you that they find something disgusting, you should recognize that convincing them otherwise would be a waste of time and energy.” Hear, hear!

Are you aware of this hilarious debacle where a multi-millionaire housewife who hasn’t worked a day in her life goes into a hissy fit when that truth is pointed out? Check out this great post on the subject: “Mrs. Mittens took to twitter to let the world know that she was a stay-at-home mom with five boys, which means she worked plenty. After all, she’s also got three mansions to manage, plus all those swimming pools and stables to clean. Shoveling out the stables alone must be a full-time job.”

Read this important post, people. Please, read it. “Despite the fact that childhood sexual abuse is revolting, it is surprisingly common (statistics are difficult to estimate, but I don’t think it’s a stretch to think it’s around 30% for men & women, if not higher). . . This takes me back to my beginning discussion of schizophrenia. So many folks are intent on biologizing the disorder and ignoring the social factors. “We, parents, aren’t to blame for this psychotic disorder. We’re victims too”. Sure, maybe you are. But I want to also be vigilant to the fact that psychotic disorders often have historical and traumatic origins.”

Why abortion is not genocide.

I’m normal, I’m normal! Here is a person who is as much into creating graphs of his daily activities as I am. I’m not alone in my graph-making obsession!

Sorry, GOP. You can’t perpetuate inequality and sexism–and expect women to support you. You’re waging a war on women. It’s not simply rhetoric. It’s fact.”

Afraid of giving talks? This post could help.

I don’t know who this Hound they are talking about is supposed to be, but this is the meal of my dreams.

Reasons to write by hand.

Will North Korea attempt a nuclear test?

This lament of a compulsive book buyer could have been written by me. It’s rare for me to identify with anybody’s experiences as fully as I do here.

No one can read your mind — if you disapprove of a comment, but refuse to either confront the commenter or delete his leavings, other people reading your site simply assume you are okay with what he said. How can they know? You won’t even say anything yea or nay, because in your head you’re above all that. But no one can see you up there on your shining pedestal. It’s one thing to be unconcerned with what people think about you when it comes to your own beliefs and ideas that you have communicated to the world. It’s another to not care what people think about you because you don’t seem to understand that communication comes in many forms, and one of them is silence and inaction on a situation under your control.” I agree completely!

So this “motherhood is the most important job in the world” thing is an outlier. And it’s a tool used to not give actual mothers their due. It romanticizes what motherhood actually looks like; since the job is So Important, it’s positioned as something that women should be happy to sacrifice for. Of course motherhood should be tedious and financially stressful and uncompensated — your compensation is the smile on your child’s face! And that’s invaluable. If you think otherwise, you are probably some sort of witch.” The entire post is very good, so do read it.

America’s pill-popping capital. This is very scary, people.

The “I’m not going to lie” trend.

I would love it if, next time I walk into a room and had a sensory overload, instead of having people try to convince me I’m hearing things, or that I’m just wrong, and trying to draw attention to myself for no reason, to accept that I’m not attention seeking (the moment my brain went into overload and I had to cover my ears, I began to wish to be invisible and not draw ANY attention at all), and to accept that I am hearing a sound that is real and there, and to help me deal with it. But above all, I wish that it was safe and acceptable to say “excuse me, my Autism is showing”.

A great collection of quotes on the horrible damage religious fanatics and moral conservatives cause every single day to our society.

Catholic theologians denounce Paul Ryan as a traitor to Christian values.

And the post of the week: a Canadian blogger offers some very interesting research into the origins of Jenna Talackova, a transgender contestant in Miss Universe contest. This is fascinating stuff, people. I highly recommend.

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27 comments on “Sunday Link Encyclopedia and Self-Promotion

  1. Thanks, Clarissa! It’s funny, like Angel Fractured above, when I wrote that “excuse me my autism is showing” post, it was almost not published, because it was just a reaction to my unhappy day. But people really seem to relate. So yay :) Thanks for linking to it! :)

  2. So the Dems go after Ann Romney, Sarah Palin, MIchele Bachmann, Condi Rice, stay at home moms, etc. etc, but they’re not waging a war on women? Could have fooled me.

    • I think both sides are. Misogyny comes in all flavors in the USA: we don’t like to discriminate, after all.

      • Saying that Ann Romney is a spoiled lazy housewife has nothing to do with the war on women. I’d say the same about a man if he were a spoiled lazy housewife. The last thing I care about are the genitals of these idiots.

      • Oh I don’t care either. I don’t there’s anything wrong with slamming Romney for acting like a spoiled, clueless white woman. But in general terms, misogyny knows no political biases. Liberals are more willing to change when they’re called out on it, though, because at least liberals are supposed to be against this sort of stuff.

    • They don’t go after their uteri, you know. They go after their stupidity. Feminism doesn’t mean you can’t criticize people with uteri or mention their fuckups. It means you should stay out of their uteri, that’s all. “Going after” idiots of all genfers is absolutely legitimate.

      • Nope. Sarah Palin was criiticized because she had a baby, instead of aborting it. She was also blamed for saying things she never said. Michele Bachmann went on a national tv show with the leftist bandleader playing a song that described her as a “bitch”. Condi Rice had terrible things said about her and she definitely isn’t stupid.

        How can someone say Ann Romney is a spoiled lazy housewife when the only thing that person knows about her is that she raised 5 boys? One boy is often enough to drive many moms up the wall.

        If you want to talk about a war on women, look at the Mideast and the “honor” killings over here and in Western Europe. You seldom see any mention of that on the leftist blogs, or in the leftist media. (The only leftist blogger I know who repeatedly reports on that is Butterflies and Wheels. If there are others I’d like to know who they are.) The Republicans realize that’s where the war on women really is. The Dems seem to want to hide it under the table.

      • “Sarah Palin was criiticized because she had a baby, instead of aborting it.”

        – Let’s avoid this pesky passive voice and bring quotes, OK?

        “She was also blamed for saying things she never said. Michele Bachmann went on a national tv show with the leftist bandleader playing a song that described her as a “bitch”. Condi Rice had terrible things said about her and she definitely isn’t stupid.”

        – How does any of this have to do with war on WOMEN as opposed the war on stupid people?

        “How can someone say Ann Romney is a spoiled lazy housewife when the only thing that person knows about her is that she raised 5 boys?”

        – Because she is a stupid lazy housewife.

        “One boy is often enough to drive many moms up the wall.”

        – It’s not my fault if she is not only a useless creature but, according to this statement from you, a horrible mother, too. If your child “drives you up a wall”, you have failed as a parent. It’s not surprising since housewifes make atrocious parents. Ask me how I know that. :-)

        “If you want to talk about a war on women, look at the Mideast and the “honor” killings over here and in Western Europe. You seldom see any mention of that on the leftist blogs, or in the leftist media. (The only leftist blogger I know who repeatedly reports on that is Butterflies and Wheels. If there are others I’d like to know who they are.) The Republicans realize that’s where the war on women really is. The Dems seem to want to hide it under the table.”

        – I want to talk about things that can impact my life, if that’s all right with you. Honor killings do not and cannot. Contraception and housewifery can and do. You really want to blame people for caring about things that impact their lives directly instead of dismissing their own concerns for the sake of some people they have never seen in the Mideast? I feel a lot of compassion for the plight of women in barbaric societies. However, it is up to them to travel the same journey as we did in the West towards liberation. I cannot make this journey for them. That would be condescending and useless.

  3. Thanks for the link! Things I would like to see after Jenna becomes Miss Universe. Jenna is a contestant on the Bachelor. I wonder how Brad and the other guys would handle that. :)

  4. The saddest thing about the Hillary Rosen affair is that now “working mom vs. stay at home mom” is at the center of media attention as a “women’s issue”. In the meantime, the real issues, such as the new bills introduced in several states that gradually erode women’s reproductive rights, are ignored.

    • I have a different reaction. This is a huge issue that blights countless families, so it should be discussed.

      The reproductive rights are very important because without them women are robbed of an access to a huge part of human existence: sexual realization.

      But the idea that not working is somehow work also robs women of an access to a huge part of human existence: professional and social realization.

      I can’t really say that one issue is more important than another.

      • And you know, the thing is, women have always worked. The “housewife that stays at home” is construction of Madison Avenue, at least the modern version. I can’t speak for women before the modern era or in other countries because the circumstances were very different and in some times and places it was actively dangerous for women to leave the protection of the home… But in the modern day United States there is no reason for women to shut themselves up with their children. For one thing, the kids are at school all day. (I’m leaving home-schooled kids out of this — that’s still a minority of families in the country who are doing that.) For another thing, the outside-the-home environment isn’t a wilderness, it’s just as civilized. Also, “work” doesn’t consist only of backbreaking physical labor. Working in an office for a few hours is no more stressful for women than for men. The reason to keep women in the house serves the following purpose: getting women to want to buy things. Because she’s got that house (which had to be bought), and she needs to put stuff in it, and she’s bored out of her skull because “running a house” doesn’t mean you have to check that the servants are doing their jobs or that floors have to be scrubbed by hand. Housework can be done in a couple of hours tops. And the idea that Mom has to be there when the kids get home so they won’t turn into little neurotic demons of loneliness is nonsense. I was a “latchkey kid” and I loved it.

      • SO TRUE about the promotion of the housewifery as a way to get women to buy stuff. So absolutely true. This is a phenomenon that started to arise as soon as the consumer society started to develop. There is a beautiful novel by a XIXth century Spanish novelist precisely about that.

      • You are right, but in our culture of political correctness, nothing is to be gained by a media discussion of housewifery. We are way too nice to hurt the feelings of the housewives’ who feel slighted at the truth. Look at the way the Democrats distanced themselves from Rosen. Can you point me to any politician who supported her? The media is tripping over itself, trying to soothe the rich housewives who feel offended by Rosen. Other than a few bloggers, no one has the courage to speak the truth.

        On the other hand, a discussion of reproductive rights in the media is something that has much more potential of being actually productive.

      • “Can you point me to any politician who supported her? The media is tripping over itself, trying to soothe the rich housewives who feel offended by Rosen. Other than a few bloggers, no one has the courage to speak the truth.”

        – This is precisely why we need such conversations to happen time and again. Right now, people are too terrorized to oppose anything to the uber-patriarchal discourse of “motherhood is the most important job of all.” It seems insurmountable now but the more we talk about it, the more people will see how untenable this approach is. The beginning of the journey always looks daunting but I’m sure we will eventually prevail and and defeat the patriarchal discourse.

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