I just read in this new book I’m reading that defeated people bleed out through three wounds: guilt, shame, and fear.
This sounds just about right.
Defeated People
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I just read in this new book I’m reading that defeated people bleed out through three wounds: guilt, shame, and fear.
This sounds just about right.
Clarissa's Blog 
Well then, this means I have spent a lot of time as a Defeated One. Which would explain why, before I became Defeated, I had the sense that I was fighting for my life!
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It follows that people who try to provoke feelings of guilt, fear and shame in you want to defeat you. Even if they claim that they are trying to help.
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It’s very interesting that the defeated feel guilty, isn’t it? The ones with the least power feel the most overwhelming guilt.
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Guilt is often the only way to achieve an illusion of control.
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Yes, but deeper than that there is the belief that absolute control is really possible — something engendered by a miswiring in our biological natures.
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Guilt, shame and fear…………motivators for many great fighters. 😉
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Strong quote. Is the entire book so good?
Btw, can one feel shame without guilt? Rationally, if you aren’t guilty, why would you feel ashamed? Is guilt a shame directed towards oneself?
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Extremely, extremely true. At least to me.
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