Trampled Lives

Some people just make me sad:

When Dr. Bella Ellwood-Clayton began to research female sexual desire, she found a commonality among women in long-term relationships — one that many of us can surely relate to. While, initially, women’s libidos tended to match their male partners’, as the relationship progressed, sex fell lower and lower on the list of priorities.

Jennifer  Armstrong put it perfectly:

Another manufactured myth to make old biddies feel better about their trampled lives.

Very true.

Today at the jewelry store we were waiting for N.’s Mogen David to get fitted with a chain and saw an ad telling men to buy a ruby “to rekindle her desire.” Yes, because all women are whores whose desire needs to be stoked with jewelry.

10 thoughts on “Trampled Lives”

    1. It is shocking how many people see evo psych bullshit as real science. You can take any ridiculous stereotype, attach an evo psych justification to it, and feel completely reasonable in upholding it. I’ve met some quite intelligent people who subscribe to this crapola.


      1. My husband who worked in Stanford library (a librarian like Bataille) once met a hyperintelligent woman who turned toward the ideology of Breatharianism.

        Nature selects.


    2. Oh my gosh, I feel dumber and really gross for having read that.

      How weird is the language that writer used to describe the female body? It makes it sound like we’re human Jell-O Jigglers or something.


  1. I don’t understand, do you think the women lied to Dr. Bella Ellwood-Clayton? If not, why is it manufactured? May be, you and musteryou are different from most women.


    1. All of these “studies” are completely meaningless. Just imagine the number of people that have to be questioned to make the study representative of the experience of “women.” Cultures, age groups, linguistic, religious, professional, familial, etc., etc. categories. To draw a conclusion about 3,5 BILLION people, you need the kind of a study that nobody has even the slightest of hope of conducting. Even the word “sex” is defined differently from one culture to another.

      All this study tells us is what Bella’s personal experience is. And it ain’t pretty.


      1. She is talking about mainstream American women (not Muslims or Russian immigrants, for example), of course.

        Following your logic, one can’t ever study culture or social trends since all people in the group are never questioned.



        1. A representative sample doesn’t need to include everybody. But it does need to be representative.

          There is, of course , an interesting cultural phenomenon at work here: the need to foment the belief that female sexuality is non-physiological in nature. That’s what should be studied, and this “researcher” should be the object of the study.


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