Trampled Lives

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Clarissa

October 26, 2013

Some people just make me sad:

When Dr. Bella Ellwood-Clayton began to research female sexual desire, she found a commonality among women in long-term relationships — one that many of us can surely relate to. While, initially, women’s libidos tended to match their male partners’, as the relationship progressed, sex fell lower and lower on the list of priorities.

Jennifer Armstrong put it perfectly:

Another manufactured myth to make old biddies feel better about their trampled lives.

Very true.

Today at the jewelry store we were waiting for N.’s Mogen David to get fitted with a chain and saw an ad telling men to buy a ruby “to rekindle her desire.” Yes, because all women are whores whose desire needs to be stoked with jewelry.

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10 responses to “Trampled Lives”

musteryou

October 26, 2013

There’s even worse that this. Intelligence is in your fat cells:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/collections/201310/amy-alkon/eternal-curves

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1. bloggerclarissa
  
  October 26, 2013
  
  It is shocking how many people see evo psych bullshit as real science. You can take any ridiculous stereotype, attach an evo psych justification to it, and feel completely reasonable in upholding it. I’ve met some quite intelligent people who subscribe to this crapola.
  
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  1. musteryou
    
    October 26, 2013
    
    My husband who worked in Stanford library (a librarian like Bataille) once met a hyperintelligent woman who turned toward the ideology of Breatharianism.
    
    Nature selects.
    
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2. Lindsay
  
  October 28, 2013
  
  Oh my gosh, I feel dumber and really gross for having read that.
  
  How weird is the language that writer used to describe the female body? It makes it sound like we’re human Jell-O Jigglers or something.
  
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el

October 27, 2013

I don’t understand, do you think the women lied to Dr. Bella Ellwood-Clayton? If not, why is it manufactured? May be, you and musteryou are different from most women.

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1. bloggerclarissa
  
  October 27, 2013
  
  All of these “studies” are completely meaningless. Just imagine the number of people that have to be questioned to make the study representative of the experience of “women.” Cultures, age groups, linguistic, religious, professional, familial, etc., etc. categories. To draw a conclusion about 3,5 BILLION people, you need the kind of a study that nobody has even the slightest of hope of conducting. Even the word “sex” is defined differently from one culture to another.
  
  All this study tells us is what Bella’s personal experience is. And it ain’t pretty.
  
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  1. Anonymous
    
    October 28, 2013
    
    She is talking about mainstream American women (not Muslims or Russian immigrants, for example), of course.
    
    Following your logic, one can’t ever study culture or social trends since all people in the group are never questioned.
    
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    1. bloggerclarissa
      
      October 28, 2013
      
      A representative sample doesn’t need to include everybody. But it does need to be representative.
      
      There is, of course , an interesting cultural phenomenon at work here: the need to foment the belief that female sexuality is non-physiological in nature. That’s what should be studied, and this “researcher” should be the object of the study.
      
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Shakti

October 27, 2013

FWIW, she just seems to focus on developed Western nations.

With surveys it seems like there’s pressure (societal, a simple desire to get the researcher out of her face, etc) to parrot whatever party line the researcher expects.

If you believe this article, I’m apparently insatiable and have been since my teens

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musteryou

October 27, 2013

More trampled lives:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201310/avoid-the-fatal-attraction-effect-in-your-relationship

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