Seekers of Rejection

All women know that the most annoying category of men is the ones who beg for sex. All of these PUAs and other perennial rejects who whine, moan, and debase themselves, begging for sex which they never get. After a while of observing them, it becomes clear that what they are actually begging for is not sex. It’s rejection.

PUAs are replaying the traumatic situation they kept experiencing in their childhood. They are not begging women for sex. They are begging Mommy to love them. The role of the women is to reject them, reinforcing the comforting feeling of familiarity. “Mommy is still here, she is as cold and uncaring as ever and she will remain unchanged.”

These poor, damaged characters reserve their greatest hatred for the women who didn’t reject them. A refusal to play strict, cold Mommy to their whining, begging little boy is seen as an attempt to take away what they prize most: living in a predictable world where everybody plays the role they are supposed to play.

The same kind of trauma motivates the people who go to blogs where they know they will be humiliated and ridiculed. They crave being treated this way (usually by a woman who reminds them of Mom) and feel disappointed or even angry when the mother substitute doesn’t play her role and beat them up verbally.

And then there is the category of people who keep choosing a job / a pursuit / a goal that will invariably defeat them. These are the ones who are playing the game of “You have disappointed Daddy again, you loser.” They need to “keep disappointing Daddy”, even if Daddy has been dead for half a century, and will keep replaying the situation of defeat over and over again because they derive comfort from it.