I was a few years old yesterday when I found out that some people who are chronically late everywhere claim that they’re suffering from a disorder called “time blindness.”
Of all the snowflake-y behaviors, this is probably the worst one. Blind people have a serious physical disability that they cannot help. Being constantly late everywhere, on the other hand, is not a disability. It’s a character flaw.
I’m one of those people who are notoriously and hilariously early everywhere. My kid ribs me over this all the time. I never inflict myself early on people who invited me. I take walks until the agreed upon time.
It’s not that hard to avoid being a pest. All that is needed is a little bit of respect and concern for others.
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I have a client whose mother complains about her being late for school…while in a session with me for which she (the mother) was herself late.
The client tends to underestimate how long things will take and to get distracted by things on her way to what she is supposed to be doing.
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Yeah, but I get constantly distracted, and often spend ten minutes looking for kids’ shoes on my way out the door. And we are usually early because I plan for that. It’s not like it’s some kind of new, surprising thing that I’m distractable and the kids lose their shoes. I figured out how much of a margin we’d need to compensate for that, I give myself that margin, and… most of the time we are 15 to 30 minutes early. When absolutely everything goes wrong, we are on time.
Not rocket science.
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that’s the kind of thing I’m trying to help the teenager do. Allow extra time, plan to be early.
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Precisely, that’s exactly how I get everywhere early as well. For example, when I take a new route to an unfamiliar destination, I always factor into my calculations that I might need to stop to use the bathroom or that I might take a wrong exit and will have to do a roundabout. I know myself, and I know which things can delay me. It requires basic self-awareness. That’s all.
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“when I take a new route to an unfamiliar destination”
I went to a funeral today (former boss) and it was in a small out of the way cemetery I’d never heard of. I researched the route and figured I could take a streetcar (every 15 minutes) and switch to bus (infrequent) and then looked at the schedule again… and decided to take an earlier streetcar which meant adding about 15 minutes to the change… and was glad I did because the original streetcar I was going to take never showed up.
The extra time wasn’t bad either as there were colleagues already waiting at the bus stop when I got there….
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