A beautiful quote from Russo:

Most people are trapped in a solitary existence, a life circumscribed by want and failures of imagination, limitations from which readers are exempt.

I pretty much stopped buying digital books after Klara was born and went back to buying paper books. I want her to have the kind of childhood where she can come up to a bookcase, pull out a random book, and discover the world through it. And then pull out another, and another, and so on. 

And on top of everything, I just had an article accepted for publication less than a month after submitting. It’s my most. . . erm, adventurous article. I was very unsure it would be wanted by anybody, and here it is, accepted on a first try. 

And yes, it’s a very crabby article. I hated the novel in question and wanted to unburden myself. 

Another reason I enjoyed this trip is that I didn’t have to self-censor and could use my full vocabulary in English. I make an effort to avoid using words like “meretricious, castigate, pastiche, laudatory, etc” back where I live. The reason I self-edit is not that I suspect people there of not knowing these words but, rather, because nobody expects a person with an accent to have a rich vocabulary. 

The more tactful folks just stare at me like I’m a trained monkey who suddenly started reciting Shakespeare. The more direct ones actually ask, “How come you know the word precipitous?” It’s tiresome, and I prefer to avoid these situations altogether.

I’m so isolated I don’t even know how to pronounce covfefe. There’s nobody I can discuss it with orally and not in writing. 

And what makes this encounter with the Former Nemesis so intense is that I felt so completely understood with her. I haven’t felt this understood and in sync with anybody who is not a close personal friend or my sister in forever. (With N we are not on the same wavelength at all, and it’s the reason our relationship is so passionate.)

This is the last person I expected to be so like me (see the part about Trump in the previous post.) It’s so weird. We literally finished each other’s sentences. So weird. 

I’m now wondering who else I should look up to see how it would feel. 

I just had a 4-hour-long dinner with my former thesis adviser, and it was shockingly amazing. I had a fantastic time. People who know me in person have just fallen off their chairs because they are very aware of how fraught my relationship with her had been. But today I discovered that she is a passionate, fun person.

Gosh, I so wish I could have seen this in her back when I was a student. It’s incredible how much one’s inner darkness colors one’s experience of people and places. 

Of course, she’s a Trump supporter because hello, she’s a tenured professor at Yale, what else could she be? And we all know me, I’m pathologically vocal about my politics, so I announced from the start that I hate Trump and supported Hillary. And still we had a fantastic time chatting about everything and especially politics. 

I’m super psyched because it’s not even about the professor. It’s about me making peace with my past. I feel energized and inspired and almost ready to cry because it’s such a relief not to have to hate my past any longer. 

No-Heaven is now officially renamed back into New Haven. 

Here is an interesting link on the writing process. It made me smile because I’m the exact opposite of this author. I grab my phone and scroll through my news feed the moment I wake up. My desk is chaotic and overflows with grocery receipts and unopened envelopes. I have a million windows opened at once. I interrupt my writing every 10 minutes to pay bills, check new Vine offerings, answer emails, buy diapers, read blogs. 

But I’m also the most organized person in the world. I print out my syllabi and arrange them in neat piles 3 months before the beginning of the semester. I write my conference talks months in advance. I have never in my life asked for an extended deadline with any of the publishers or my committee. 

My mind creates ideas out of a complete chaos. But I contain the chaos with the steely organization routines. 

It’s neither better nor worse than what the linked writer does. It’s just me. 

Jonathan talks about the importance of spending time on actually organizing your work. And he’s absolutely right. I can’t tell you how helpful it’s been to learn to start every writing project with a calculator in hand, figuring out what exactly I will write and when.

I remember this exhausting feeling of the utter futility of even trying to write unless I had a long, unbroken chunk of free time ahead of me. And now all I need is 30 minutes. Hell, even 15 minutes are enough time to rewrite a clumsy sentence, start a new one, work on connecting two paragraphs, break up a breathless sentence or merge two choppy ones. 

Writing an article is akin to sculpting in marble. I create a Word file, dump a bunch of quotes, sources, ideas, unfunished sentences into it, and begin to bang on them, trying to bring out a meaningful image from the raw material. 

Gradually, an outline of something recognizable and maybe even a tad elegant begins to appear. I continue banging on my chunk of marble, and it even feels physically exhausting because marble is hard and refuses to be molded. 

It’s easy to come up with ideas and envision what the finished marble statue will look like. It’s the actual process of carving, sanding, polishing and then doing the whole thing over and over again that’s hard. 

The Indian buffet across from where I used to live is still the tastiest in the world. Maybe it’s psychological because I have great memories from it. But they managed to stay open when most non-chic place went out of business, so they might be objectively great.