When Klara begins to act out, scream, refuse or insist, what helps is to ask, “Do you want a hug?” In about 80% of cases, it turns out that what she wants is precisely a hug and not a logical argument as to why she shouldn’t be screaming, as I originally thought.
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Thank you! All your parenting hacks are great.
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How do logical arguments do in the other 20% of cases?
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Not that great, to be honest. :-)))
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Miriam is great at doing this with Kalman. Besides for a hug, he often wants a blanket. He even recognizes that the blanket has a calming effect on him so he asks for it as a way of the tantrum cycle.
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