I read a long, angry thread on “ghosting,” and all I can say is. . . Anglos.
What these poor folks call ghosting is an elegant, face-saving way to fade out of each other’s lives if you aren’t a match. It’s great, it’s wonderful.
But no, Anglos have to talk everything to death. “But he hasn’t explained to me why. . . But she never said what I did wrong.” As if saying, naming, verbalizing and narrating would change the fact that you aren’t wanted.
I’m obviously not on the dating scene but if I were, I’d be grateful to a guy who just went away quietly instead of humiliating me with a speech on all the ways I don’t suit.
Also, a little piece of wisdom: if you ever catch yourself saying things like “but why did he,” “but why does she,” stop immediately. These phrases are killing your chance at a happy personal life. Change them to “why do I,” and things will get better.