Clarissa's Blog

How many people do you have who will stick around forever? No matter what happens, no matter how things shake out, these people will be exhaustively and constantly interested and present in your life. Not occasionally but daily. Bearing your burdens, witnessing your life, being your life. Knowing the texture of your daily existence until that existence reaches its end. How many?

I don’t think it’s a high number. A couple? Three? Maybe four if you are still young. Not a lot.

Marriage is the best way to get a person like that. And even better, to be a person like that for somebody. It’s such a relief, you know? You are done choosing, done making up your mind, done figuring it out. It’s a really great thing.

So if you need to get divorced, go for it. It’s completely up to you. The world is deeply indifferent.

But the next time maybe consider doing it the way I described. I mean, you’ve already tried the other way. It’s time for a different approach.

Think about it, is all I ask.