An acquaintance’s son couldn’t get paired up until past 40. Finally, he managed to find a woman. She announced from the start that she’s willing to give birth but other than that she’s not planning to do anything. She doesn’t cook or clean, even on the most basic level. She’s not getting a job. But yes, she did give birth to two children and now believes that her duty to the family is complete.
There’s only one place (that I know of) in North America where this story raises no eyebrows because the shortage of women interested in marriage is acute.
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I’m taking some computer classes at my local community college, so I’ve been interacting with girls in the 18-20 range. They seem to be interested in marriage but consider boys their age complete losers. Some like to cook, though not necessarily cooking for a man.
When I was in college, NO girls I knew cooked, since feminists were forbidden from doing anything that might please a man. “I’m not your fucking mother!” they all said. I wound up going with a Mexican townie who did all the traditional duties women were expected to do – and she expected me to do all the traditional male stuff. My college girl friends looked down on her and couldn’t imagine what I saw in her, which I thought was pretty funny. I feel like an idiot for not marrying her.
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All girls at 18 despise boys their age. It’s completely normal and evens out later in life. This has to do with different patterns of puberty. At 18, girls are women and boys are almost always still boys.
I think not cooking or cleaning is perfectly fine IF and only IF you bring in a serious salary. But not doing any domestic duties and simultaneously expecting to have all your expenses covered is nuts.
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There is of course variation, but male brains, particularly the prefrontal cortex, generally continue to grow until the mid 20’s, several years later than those of females — those are basically the bits that control risk/impulse assessment, planning, and decision-making ;-D
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Trollope has a great way of expressing this one. He says: girls grow up on the sunny side of the wall.
(i.e. they mature earlier)
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I didn’t know this quote. Thank you, I love it.
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He says it in Doctor Thorne. That’s not verbatim, I didn’t have the book handy. The context there is Mary refusing Frank’s first proposal:
“Mary, it must be remembered, was very nearly of the same age as Frank; but, as I and others have so often said before, “Women grow on the sunny side of the wall.” Though Frank was only a boy, it behoved Mary to be something more than a girl. Frank might be allowed, without laying himself open to much just reproach, to throw all of what he believed to be his heart into a protestation of what he believed to be love; but Mary was in duty bound to be more thoughtful, more reticent, more aware of the facts of their position, more careful of her own feelings, and more careful also of his.”
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“I feel like an idiot for not marrying her.”
Yeah, a young girl with the wisdom to see through second-wave feminism — the proverbial woman more “valuable than rubies”, today’s unicorn ;-D
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She wouldn’t have been faithful, though. So he’s better off.
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Why would you conclude that?
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Not enough information about the guy. Do you know him or only know his mother? Is he a “good catch”? Or a collection of red flags larger than Great October Revolution celebration? Did he have any long-term relationships before (that did not lead to marriage)?
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“she did give birth to two children and now believes that her duty to the family is complete”
A bunch of women are going to regret not having kids when they could have and this one is going to wonder why her adult children want to have anything to do with her, probably the word ‘ungrateful’ will be thrown around a lot.
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Definitely.
I have no idea why people are so against household tasks. I’ve been doing household tasks all day, and it’s been very restful. It’s not like we have to labor in medieval conditions, hauling water from the well and washing clothes by hand.
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