This is, of course, a type that exists only among heteros.
Homoerotic doesn’t have a whole lot of interest in people of the opposite gender. This might be somebody with a deeply repressed homosexuality or somebody brought up in an extremely patriarchal environment.
Homoerotic always ends up in love triangles. Homoerotic’s partners are always married, engaged or partnered with somebody else. Homoerotic is an eternal mistress of married men or an eternal lover of married women. The reason why Homoerotic always ends up in love triangles is because s/he has a profound need to be deeply enmeshed with a person of the same gender.
Homoerotic will obsess about the wife or husband of the married partner and transform him/her into a central object in Homoerotic’s emotional life. To put it bluntly, Homoerotic wants to gain access to the sex organs of the married partner’s wife/husband through the only conduit Homoerotic finds acceptable.
Now you can answer the question of why cheating is much more rampant in, say, Russia than in the US.
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\\Now you can answer the question of why cheating is much more rampant in, say, Russia than in the US.
What about the cheating partner, who has to sleep with homoerotic? Will it be one of the types too?
Do you think in Russia “extremely patriarchal environment” exists more than in US despite the difference in the 50ies f.e. – US housewives vs SSSR workers (udarnicu tryda) ?
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“What about the cheating partner, who has to sleep with homoerotic? Will it be one of the types too?”
– Of course.
“Do you think in Russia “extremely patriarchal environment” exists more than in US despite the difference in the 50ies f.e. – US housewives vs SSSR workers (udarnicu tryda) ?”
– No, it’s a different type of patriarchy. There are different types. For instance, the Russian patriarchy is very classical in the sense that it is not at all about men owning women but more about parents owning children. In the US, on the other hand, the type of patriarchy is a lot more about men owning women. I’m guessing this is because the first settlers did not bring their parents with them when they came over, so a family became defined as a unit with no presence from the older generation.
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Could you write about people, who don’t get attracted to anybody in RL? Whose last sexual attraction was 10 years ago and currently can only fantasize about anime characters & people they imagine? How can one like that understand whether lack of desire for a specific person is because he is not your type sexually OR it’s 100% one’s problem, especially if one is a virgin?
There is also a fear, if you don’t feel anything and then go and kiss or / & have sex anyway and then it’s a mistake because you naturally wasn’t attracted to him. And your 1st experience wasn’t one of desire, as one always wanted.
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Look, this is not something anybody can resolve for you online. Such problems require professional consultations. One thing I can say for sure is that when nobody is attractive, the reason has nothing to do with others but only lies inside oneself. If only anime characters look attractive, this sounds like a huge fear of sexuality. Where that fear come from – only a specialist can help find out.
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I don’t expect you to resolve for me online. But you’ve written many posts about healthy sexuality and analized many types. So I hoped you would analize this type too. On feminist blogs one usually hears about men, for whom no normal woman is good enough, but there are women like that too. 😦
On another topic, reading your blog, I saw that healthy sexuality & good sex don’t depend on weight and that being model thin can even make it harder. Could you write a post about it? Is it only psychological or physiological too? If you’re mentally healthy, but quite thin (for your body), can there be problems too? Can it happen, if one doesn’t starve oneself, but is with BMI 17 f.e. OR only in extreme cases, like real anorexia?
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” On feminist blogs one usually hears about men, for whom no normal woman is good enough, but there are women like that too.”
– You are right, this is in no way a gender issue.
If there was an attraction 10 years ago and nothing since then, it makes sense to look for something that happened at that time, something that is precluding an attraction from developing at this point. I had such a period of time in my lie where I experienced no attraction, no desire, no interest in anybody for quite a while. Later on I realized that for me (meaning that your situation might be hugely different) the issue was a basic lack of understanding how to identify people I liked as opposed to people who liked me.
“If you’re mentally healthy, but quite thin (for your body), can there be problems too? Can it happen, if one doesn’t starve oneself, but is with BMI 17 f.e. OR only in extreme cases, like real anorexia?”
– Either anorexia or obesity occur as a result of what is going on psychologically. Sexuality is such a basic physiological drive that something pretty major should be happening for it to disappear all of a sudden. There might be a physiological reason behind it but simply being a few dozen pounds over or beneath the “standard” is not it, in my opinion.
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Could Homoerotic just be the enjoyment of the eroticism of sex with members of the same sex? Afterall, it doesnt have to mean there are cheating partners, does it? I think there are tons of swingers that would point that out for you.
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You are confusing homoerotic and homosexual. Homoeroticism excludes any actual sex acts with people of yhe same sex.
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ho·mo·e·rot·i·cism
noun
a tendency to be sexually aroused by a member of the same sex.
I dont see where it says that the act is excluded?
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For a theory of homoeroticism read Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick. I can give a big bibliography once I get home. Also some scholarly definitions.
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