Melissa at Shakesville is commenting a question that people asked of Bill Clinton and says the following:
That’s fucking gross when it’s a salesman who refuses to ask me a direct question and instead asks Iain, like he’s my owner and can read my mind. When it’s the Secretary of State being treated that way…OMG.
I’m not in any way disagreeing with Melissa but I kind of do the same thing as the salesman in her example. When I’m talking to a hetero couple, I always address the woman. Even if the man is my close friend and I barely know his wife, even if the question I need to ask is supposed to be answered by the man, I still turn to the woman and address my utterance to her. In the same way, I think it’s wrong when women address my husband and not me when I’m present. It feels rude when they do that.
The point of this post is not to say anything about the Clintons, politics, or anything of the kind. I’m just wondering if my approach is some sort of a cultural thing that I just do without even noticing it.