Reader Crystallizing Chaos asked the following question:
It would be great if you could share your thoughts on how you handle failure. I know you’re amazing at what you do and a very successful academic but you must have faced failure or rejection (professional) in the past. How did you deal with it?
First of all, thank you very much for the compliments I greatly enjoy them. 🙂
Rejection is a staple of an academic’s life. Can’t handle rejection? Don’t become an academic.Â
Have oral stage traumas? (Smoke, drink, overeat, etc.?) Prepare for every rejected article to feel like the people of the world have unanimously agreed to kick you off the planet for being a total waste of space. And then experience the collective kick of 7,5 billion people.
I’ve worked very hard on this with my psychoanalyst and I’m happy to report that these days rejections feel like only half of the people in this world have agreed to kick me off the planet with the rest abstaining. Give me a few more years, and maybe the number of the kick-offers will be reduced to 1/3 of the planet’s population.
No, seriously, it gets better with time. By the time I turn 92, I will have gotten so many rejections that I will be totally jaded to the whole process.
I’m sorry if this isn’t too helpful but at least we are all in the same boat, suffering from rejection. That’s got to be somewhat comforting, right?
Some resources that you might find marginally helpful:
Here is Jonathan’s post on handling rejection with some useful suggestions.
Here is something really helpful my husband once said to help me deal with getting an article rejected.
Here is my old post from when I was getting nothing but rejections.