Thinking about democracy, democracy is great because it follows so many of the principles of a happy human life. It’s also not great for the same reason.
In democracy, as in life, you win some and you lose some. A happy person is the one who accepts the inevitability of losses and doesn’t see them as a terrible injustice that has to be battled permanently. A democracy functions when everybody accepts that their side will lose and that’s fine. Unpleasant, painful but fine.
In democracy as in life, it’s all about tradeoffs, and progress happens very very slowly with a lot of setbacks. Anybody who has tried to lose weight or learn a new skill knows that. There are no instant fixes and happy pills. Everything is excruciatingly slow. Egos need to get smaller and humility bigger.
Once you lose the capacity to accept this, democracy goes to shit and so does your life.