Death on the Fifth of the Month

At the most difficult times in life, it helps me to go into my weather app and read what the weather is like in all the places the app saved from my past visits. It’s a reminder that life goes on somewhere, with its rains, fogs, and sunrises.

My father died today. He never regained consciousness since Monday, so I didn’t get to talk to him after I arrived in Canada. But I held his hand as he drifted away, and I think he knew I was there.

People in my life tend to die on the fifth of the month. My son, my friend, now my father.

He was a wonderful father. We were always very close. This is a terrible loss.

I also have a mega ear infection that turns me quite comically deaf at the most inappropriate moments.

As always in difficult times, I appreciate distracting links, articles, tweets, and home remedies for ear infection. Yes, I will see a doctor tomorrow, although at this point I’m ready not to hear about anything medical for a long time.

31 thoughts on “Death on the Fifth of the Month

  1. Oh and for the ear infection, the best home remedy I know is to put Camphor oil on a small cotton ball and put it in your ear. It really works.


  2. I am sorry.

    Despite not knowing him personally, anyone reading your blog could see he was a unique person.

    A small consolation is that he had the gift of living a full life almost to his last day. Just recently saw you, your sister and him in the event dedicated to Ukraine.


  3. I’m very sorry to hear of your father’s death, Clarissa, but don’t delay seeking professional medical treatment for your ear infection even if some home remedy appears to give temporary pain relief. You don’t want to risk permanent hearing loss.


  4. As for home remedies, if it’s an external ear infection, I swear on boricated alcohol – it’s basically a 3% boric acid solution. Dries out the goop, which makes it a less nice environment for the bacteria that’s trying to grow there, which helps your immune system to deal with it.


  5. It’s a strange coincidence. The fifth of May this year was Israel’s 74th Independence Day. (The date moves every year since it is set according to the Hebrew calendary.)

    The weather was uncharacteristically cold. Now, as I am on the way to work, slight rain started falling. Cannot remember such cold, let alone rain, so close to summer.


  6. I’m very sorry for your loss. Even I am sad, having read about him on here over the years. Losing my father is my greatest fear. I don’t have any articles or distractions handy. If you want some totally meaningless entertainment, I suggest looking up the latest Madison Cawthorn scandals.


  7. I’m deeply sorry for your loss. I’m glad you were at least able to be there for his final moments. Praying for you and your family.

    Crush up 2-3 cloves of garlic, put them in about a cup of olive oil over medium-low heat until the oil begins to simmer. Remove from the heat and allow the oil to cool, then strain out all of the garlic. Put a few drops in the affected ear, then rest with that side up for 30 minutes before allowing the excess to drain. Repeat up to 4 times a day. We use this exclusively for ear infections (even doctor-diagnosed ones) and have never had to use the solution more than twice before the ear heals up.


  8. I’m so sorry about your loss, Clarissa.

    How is Klara taking the loss of her grandfather?


  9. I’m so sorry. I’ve been reading you for ten years, and I know what a rare, special, loving person he was and how much he influenced you on a soul and life path level.


  10. My dear Clarissa, you don’t know who I am and we have no connection apart from the knowledge, empathy and understanding I have gleaned from your words on this blog.

    I am sorry for your loss, and I also grieve for your father as he died without knowing the result of the Russian invasion of Ukraine.

    I pray that you and your family will find peace as you move through the bereavement process, and I hope that you will recognise the successes that your father would have wanted you to achieve.

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  11. I am very sorry Clarissa. I lost my father in 2020 from a brain tumor. It was so hard and still hurts. Please take comfort in your memories of him.


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