Musteryou brought a link to a terrifying article about the tragedy of a little girl whose abusive and self-involved parents illustrate perfectly well how little anorexics / bulimics / neurotics / addicts, etc. are manufactured. The article is written by a mother whose selfishness and lack of self-awareness is nothing short of stomach-turning.
“The doctor has told me and my husband, oh I don’t know, maybe 25 times, that it is not our fault. But that mother’s guilt has a way of creeping right in there. She also said there’s no prescribed method of parenting that can prevent a kid from becoming anorexic.”
Of course, to hell with the pesky kid. The important thing is that the paying customer, the Mommy, is placated and never has to face what a shitty parent she is.
“And truly, I don’t care where it came from, as long as my daughter gets over it.”
This is just priceless. “I don’t care what is going on with her. Just repair her already so that I don’t have to be paying any more attention to this.” Note how she is not even trying to pretend she cares where the child’s problems come from.
“Every night, we went to bed exhausted from trying to get our increasingly furious kid to take yet another bite at the dinner table. We coaxed her along in the “dolphin” method we’d learned.”
Instead of searching for the root of the problem, the irresponsible and cruel parents choose to subject the kid to outright torture that will create a multitude of problems for her later on. But what can you expect from people who say:
“Our natural inclination was to say, “Eat your freaking food or the wrath of your parents will rain down on your head with a vengeance you’ve never imagined in your worst nightmares.”
Got it? This is a natural inclination for such parents. Now we know what kind of natural parenting practices were used on this girl and drover her to anorexia.
During that meal, my daughter gave the girl in “The Exorcist” a run for her money. She glared. She pouted. She ranted. She raved. She acted possessed — the same way she sometimes acted during dinner at home. The therapist reassured us it wasn’t really our daughter. It was the “eating disorder,” which she said had a life of its own. Now, that’s not something any parent wants to try to wrap their head around.
People who act in horrible ways love to generalize. They convince themselves that everybody is exactly like they are, and this means they don’t need to do anything about their lousy behavior.
The infantile and cruel mother thinks nothing of making the descriptions of how she tortured her daughter public. She even seems to expect praise for what she has been doing. She managed to break the girl’s will and bully her into eating. What price the kid will pay for that when she grows up doesn’t concern the abuser. The daughter’s job is to pretend that she is like all other kids and thereby allow the mother to get the social approval that is the entire goal of her existence.
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