Before, when I’d come to pick up Klara from school, she’d run to me, happily squealing, “Mommy, Mommy!”
Now that she’s almost five, I come to pick her up and she immediately runs towards the school window to wave and giggle and chat with the kids she left exactly three seconds ago.
These are normal stages of development. Friends gradually become more important than parents. In teenage years, the need to separate from the parents and form one’s own identity culminates in an animosity towards parents and an overvaluing of the peer group. People who don’t go through this process on time tend to have trouble forming their own families.
So you can imagine the damage done to kids when they are barred from hanging out with friends.